Freedom1990

I forgot just how ugly it can get dealing with an untreated ACOA and his resulting control issues.

The details aren't important. What is important is I hung up on him when he got ugly with me. I don't have to listen to it, and I won't, end of story.

Please assure me life won't always be this painful, that I'm just going through a rough patch right now.

I'm having a hard time seeing light at the end of the tunnel.

MsPINKAcres

PINK HUGS to you, my friend!!

In my life today, dealing with my mom can be some of my hardest struggles!!

Take good care of YOU!
Rita

bookwyrm

This too will pass hon.
:ghug3

wicked

puppy breath is the perfect antidote to the ignorance of other people.
just go get that puppy and snuggle.
breathe in, breathe out.
it is over now.
live in the moment.

beth

barb dwyer

This will pass.

Ann

The difference between a bad day and a good day is about 2 days.

It will get better, it always does.

Hugs to you for hanging up, for working so hard to improve your life and for just being such a terrific person here at SR.

Happy New Year, Freedom. May 2011 be the year you claim the universe and all the stars.

Big hugs

Phoenixthebird

To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funnybone.
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fourmaggie

^^^^ NOW those a PAWS to live by....lol, that is cute!

lulu1974

I cant believe you just posted this! I had it out with my dad yesterday too! I am tired of not being good enough. I am proud of you for standing your ground. You said your peace. The rest will resolve itself. People heal every day. Some even change.

Sometimes you just have to say what you have to say. Stay strong.

Hugs,

Lulu

Carol Star

Hard boiled people are half baked. My sponser says to have compassion for people not in recovery. That is how I deal with my acoa sister. Two hours of her Christmas morning was enough. Today in recovery I don't have to act on how I am feeling. This is a rough time of year for alot of people. I just came from a meeting and lots of people were out of sorts. Do a gratitude list. Yep I would have hung up.

barb dwyer

loved that cat thingy!

least

:ghug3 Things will not always seem so bleak. Snuggle with your critters. That always makes me feel better.

Freedom1990

I decided to buy myself a really cute kitchen towel with dogs on it, and tonight I'm watching movies online while crocheting along the top of the towel so I can hang it from my top drawer by the sink.

Little Kenna is sleeping under my desk on a blanket, and snuggled up with a stuffed bear I got for Christmas that is twice as big as her.

theuncertainty

Sending hugs your way, DeVon. Not every day will be this hard.

Impurrfect

(((DeVon))) - it will get better. My dad and I had it out, on a trip to NY, and I was about to get out of the van and walk home, but realized I was in PA and that's a long, long way from home. A week later, he told me (in tears) that his biggest prayer is that I have a better year...he hurts that I'm struggling so much.

I'm glad you hung up on him. I told my dad "I'm too angry to talk to you right now", turned my back on him, and didn't speak for a couple hours. Of course we were confined in a van, but I still set my boundaries when we did talk.

You've had a lot going on, and you don't need this, so just put the focus back on you and your furbabies. It will be okay.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

MissFixit

Devon,

Hi.

You might not see this, but I do. You are inspiring to me and so many other people here and I would imagine in your real life too. You have picked yourself up and moved forward in so many ways. To be in school and sucessfully acheiving the things you are at any age much less after having raised 2 kids who are now adults is awe inspiring to me. I went back to school at 31 with no kids, wasn't a recovering A, just had me to worry about and it was hard!

Your dad sounds like mine. He remembers and frequently recalls every thing wrong I have ever done since I was 5. Boom, right there no matter what good I have done for years or even decades. We can't please everyone including our dads all the time or even much of the time in some cases. Last year my shrink said to me that he hoped I wouldn't be a successful businesswoman with a graduate degree who was doing interesting things and STILL waiting on approval from my dad. I hope you are not like me...

I know your dad helps you right now or he might have used to, but whatever power he is wielding over you is not about you, it is about him. His frustration is about control at least my dad's was.

Feel better, my friend. I always like reading your posts.

Miss

Live

Parents can be so very wounding no matter how old we are. I am sorry your dad is like that. I have needed to get off the phone with my mom countless times and it is never easy or easier.
(((((((((((((DeVon))))))))))))