AlCOHOLIC LIAR
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AlCOHOLIC LIAR
I am in the midst of making big changes in my life, and one of the biggies is NO CONTACT. I have reprogrammed my phone last week, so instead of his name coming up on my call/text ID it now reads "ALCOHOLIC LIAR".
I have to be honest, everytime I see his "new name" pop up, my resolve to to stay away from him gets stronger. It squelches any desire to reestablish contact.
I know I can block his calls/texts, but right now this is working really well for me. It helps me to see the real man, not the fantasy guy I kept going back to.
I have to be honest, everytime I see his "new name" pop up, my resolve to to stay away from him gets stronger. It squelches any desire to reestablish contact.
I know I can block his calls/texts, but right now this is working really well for me. It helps me to see the real man, not the fantasy guy I kept going back to.
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I just hope your curiosity doesn't get the better of you and you answer his calls or respond to his texts. No contact is really the best thing. If you are truly done, then be done.
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At first I changed his name in my cellphone to say "jerk" when he called. I also made it so that it didn't ring that way all his calls would go to voicemail so I wouldn't be tempted to answer them.
Eventually, when I got tired of the BS messages he was leaving I changed my phone number.
Now I am truly no contact. And he doesn't take up my mentally energy any more.
Eventually, when I got tired of the BS messages he was leaving I changed my phone number.
Now I am truly no contact. And he doesn't take up my mentally energy any more.
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I made a ringtone for AH out of an old Robert Cray song. So when he calls, I hear:
Why can't you show some feeling?
Why can't you understand?
Messed up my whole life
Why wreck my day
Did my best to love you
Now do your best to leave
Can't you see that's what I want
I really need
This probably says more about me than it does about AH. But I like it anyway
Why can't you show some feeling?
Why can't you understand?
Messed up my whole life
Why wreck my day
Did my best to love you
Now do your best to leave
Can't you see that's what I want
I really need
This probably says more about me than it does about AH. But I like it anyway
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Gladly I do not get those calls. But when I see him around I imagine a Zombie like the ones who dance with Michael Jackson in Thriller. Jerky movements, willing to suck the life out of whoever.
Beware! CURSED zombie!
No contact becomes much easier in time. Take it one day at a time. One day you will feel so much better, it will make no sense bringing that kind of people in your life anymore. You'll have your "bouncer" in good shape
Beware! CURSED zombie!
No contact becomes much easier in time. Take it one day at a time. One day you will feel so much better, it will make no sense bringing that kind of people in your life anymore. You'll have your "bouncer" in good shape
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I love the names chosen to warn when these people call, and sometimes imagine what they would think, the anger shown and insulted look on faces....the "how dare you call me that" comments.
Bah, humbug. You reap what you sow, and boy some of the crops are doozies.
God bless
Bah, humbug. You reap what you sow, and boy some of the crops are doozies.
God bless
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Originally Posted by groybin 
I am in the midst of making big changes in my life, and one of the biggies is NO CONTACT. I have reprogrammed my phone last week, so instead of his name coming up on my call/text ID it now reads "ALCOHOLIC LIAR".
I have to be honest, everytime I see his "new name" pop up, my resolve to to stay away from him gets stronger. It squelches any desire to reestablish contact.
I know I can block his calls/texts, but right now this is working really well for me. It helps me to see the real man, not the fantasy guy I kept going back to.
I have to be honest, everytime I see his "new name" pop up, my resolve to to stay away from him gets stronger. It squelches any desire to reestablish contact.
I know I can block his calls/texts, but right now this is working really well for me. It helps me to see the real man, not the fantasy guy I kept going back to.
You have "Alcoholic Liar" for your call display, I have "Daffy Duck" to remind me of all of the quacking from my EXABF. After close to 30 calls to my home phone, my cell, I had to block him. This has all been since Thursday. My regular email is blocked but he tried a new ploy this morning - professing his love through YouTube with a video...telling me how much he loves me.
When I read that and saw his profession of love,, all I could picture and hear is Daffy Duck yelling out for all to hear "Thufferin' Thucotash!!" It sure helps.....
If I were to play his game of songs (which I'm not), I think this one fits the bill:
Lesley Gore - You Don't Own Me
You don't own me, I'm not just one of your many toys
You don't own me, don't say I can't go with other boys
And don't tell me what to do
And don't tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don't put me on display, 'cause
You don't own me, don't try to change me in any way
You don't own me, don't tie me down 'cause I'd never stay
Oh, I don't tell you what to say
I don't tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That's all I ask of you
I'm young and I love to be young
I'm free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want
To say and do whatever I please
A-a-a-nd don't tell me what to do
Oh-h-h-h don't tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don't put me on display
I don't tell you what to say
Oh-h-h-h don't tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That's all I ask of you
I'm young and I love to be young
I'm free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want
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Call blocking
I finally decided to block ALCOHOLIC LIAR'S phone calls/texts.
You see, he wouldn't bother me from normal 8-5 hours. No, he likes to contact me late in the evening, usually when I am already in bed and counting sheep.
I enjoyed seeing his "name" pop up and reading his ridiculous texts, but I realized it is coming at a big price... my sleep!
I need to keep my cel phone on, just in case my daughter calls or at the hospital where I work calls, which is infrequent but does happen.
So, I blocked every number I could think of that he could use. If he is smart, he will call me from another number...but since his typical M.O. is contacting me while under the influence, he may not have the necessary brain cells functioning to figure this one out.
You see, he wouldn't bother me from normal 8-5 hours. No, he likes to contact me late in the evening, usually when I am already in bed and counting sheep.
I enjoyed seeing his "name" pop up and reading his ridiculous texts, but I realized it is coming at a big price... my sleep!
I need to keep my cel phone on, just in case my daughter calls or at the hospital where I work calls, which is infrequent but does happen.
So, I blocked every number I could think of that he could use. If he is smart, he will call me from another number...but since his typical M.O. is contacting me while under the influence, he may not have the necessary brain cells functioning to figure this one out.
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My EXABF's MO is to call at the usual times he used to call me. I've blocked my home phone, my email, blocked him on FaceBook and MSN. Somehow, one or two emails slipped through but I deleted them without reading them. Too much temptation to get entangled.
It is a pain in the arse and thankfully, we have the tools to block/delete/whatever we have to do to go totally no contact. It's the only way to do it....
It is a pain in the arse and thankfully, we have the tools to block/delete/whatever we have to do to go totally no contact. It's the only way to do it....
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For me, it's been only a few days but this is the final break. It's getting tiring.
I've taken him back before but no more. These calls/emails/video dedications are all manipulation on his part - he figures that I'll give in, say all is well and we will be back to square one.
Not this time and like you, groybin, Ive taken these steps to ensure peace in my life.
I've taken him back before but no more. These calls/emails/video dedications are all manipulation on his part - he figures that I'll give in, say all is well and we will be back to square one.
Not this time and like you, groybin, Ive taken these steps to ensure peace in my life.
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