Prayer request
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Prayer request
I have a consultation with a lawyer on Monday, Feb. 23rd, to discuss divorcing my AH. I'm a little nervous about the meeting, but I'm more nervous about telling my AH that I'm seeking a divorce. It should not come as a surprise to him; however, I have a feeling...I know that he will not take this well. I have no intensions in telling him my decision until I get all the facts from the lawyer, yet it doesn't make it any easier for me to confront him. Those of you who have been down this rode, or who are about to embark on the same decision, probably know what I'm feeling. We have similar experiences regarding life with an alcoholic and their light-switch attitudes especially when they see their world is about to change. But it's not just his world...it's my world too.
So, I'm asking for your prayers for strength to do what I feel I need to do for me.
Thank you
So, I'm asking for your prayers for strength to do what I feel I need to do for me.
Thank you
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I did the same thing you are doing a couple of weeks ago. I went to see a lawyer, not to draw up divorce papers, just to get some information. My AH did not know about it. I felt very nervous and sneaky up until my appointment. I am an honest, open person so do not usually do things like that without informing AH.
I spent a little over an hour discussing my options with my attorney. He was a wonderful, knowledgable man and I left his office feeling like I had definitely done the right thing by talking with him. Knowledge is power. I have since told my AH about my visit. He was not happy about it but wasn't surprised either. We are still living under the same roof but lead separate lives. I have not made a decision yet but feel much more informed and aware of my rights.
Good luck to you. I think you will be happy with your choice to see an attorney.
I spent a little over an hour discussing my options with my attorney. He was a wonderful, knowledgable man and I left his office feeling like I had definitely done the right thing by talking with him. Knowledge is power. I have since told my AH about my visit. He was not happy about it but wasn't surprised either. We are still living under the same roof but lead separate lives. I have not made a decision yet but feel much more informed and aware of my rights.
Good luck to you. I think you will be happy with your choice to see an attorney.
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I told my husband I was going to divorce him before going to a lawyer, because I knew we would have to be in the same house but I clearly had to separate from him in a "now" moment. So we are separated at present in the same house.( Financial situation is why we are in the same house.) When I told him he went emotionally nuts for about 8 weeks, drank more,isolated less, slept a lot less and then that turned into 4 weeks of an isolated deep depression. After that followed manipulation tactics because he believed he could get me to change my mind.
I told my husband I was going to divorce him before going to a lawyer, because I knew we would have to be in the same house but I clearly had to separate from him in a "now" moment. So we are separated at present in the same house.( Financial situation is why we are in the same house.) When I told him he went emotionally nuts for about 8 weeks, drank more,isolated less, slept a lot less and then that turned into 4 weeks of an isolated deep depression. After that followed manipulation tactics because he believed he could get me to change my mind.
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