Startingover2

I haven't been around in awhile. Just in case people don't remember me I turned my AH in for drunk driving. He never found out it was me. At least not yet. We are now divorced because of the drinking/cheating.

I just found out that his case was closed. He plead guilty to a wet reckless. He has the same punishments as a dui though. He got 45 days in jail, DUI classes and fines. They told me on the phone he can swap out his jail time. I don't know what for though. Maybe someone can give me some insight here. He lost his license but is still driving.

Sad thing is he is still drinking. He doesn't think anybody knows but I do. I know his patterns and see how he is behaving. I have to protect baby. I have full custody with supervised visitation to him. I wonder now if he can change that because he only got the wet reckless?

I still feel good for calling 911 that night. He was going to kill someone, himself or his children.

Freedom1990

My suggestion would be to focus on the here and now, and don't get caught up in the 'what if's'. :ghug

You did the right thing, and I hope you have a blessed Thanksgiving!

Mark75

I don't know, but I imagine Rehab instead of jail. Lot's DUI's at treatment centers. At least there were at mine...

Mark

Barbara52

He can only change the visitation if he takes you to court. And I doubt if he would win that battle. I wouldn't worry about the "what ifs" either. Enjoy where you are.

Startingover2

He must have lost his license yesterday as well.

He just left from seeing baby. He got dropped off by someone he worked with and then walked home. Said he wanted to walk down and see her tomorrow.

I imagine he will get sick of doing that and ask me to bring baby to him for visits. I don't want to do that. He lives less than a mile from me and can walk, ride a bike or find a ride. I can't let his problem become mine.

Does that make me mean? He has done nothing but hurt us thru his drinking and cheating. He is finally getting some consequences for his actions.

denny57

No.

Soon you won't have to ask that, because you will know. :ghug3

embraced2000

what my x is doing is of no concern to me anymore. i now know that i do not have to swirl up my brain with thinking about what is going on with him.....i think about me, me, me.

does that make me selfish? nope! that makes me healthy.

FormerDoormat

His transportation problems are his problem. Dang, my nose is starting to harden. I can feel it....

kingston

I only started to heal and become a much happier person:

when I stopped obsessing about my AH
maintained no contact with him
started to put as much effort into myself as I did into trying to get him sober

From what I have read you have now entered into a new phase of your life, you have a chance a good healthy happy life without the chaos of your AH, this is exactly what I had a few months ago

I took this opportunity as a huge gift and ran with it. Results are with me every day, I am stronger, happy, content, grounded, less angry, have a great support group of friends and I'm having fun, I enjoy life.

I don't miss the chaos that was my life for 24 years.

Let him go, he's not your problem he's out of your control, time to concentrate on you and your child. You have a beautiful life ahead of you, it's up to you now to make it what you want.