Silverberry1331

Hi all,

Well, here I am again with another daily posting, it seems.

In case some of you didn't read my update on the post...yesterday, I was having attacks of separation anxiety, guilt, and so on...However, when I came home last night from school at about 10:30pm, I found he wasn't home. He didn't come home all night. Just another reminder that I am doing the right thing.

Just now, he calls with some feeble excuse, wondering if he had any messages. He asked what I was doing this weekend. I told him school work and then a family function for labor day on Monday. Then he asked if anyone invited him. Normally, I would lie, and say, "of course they did, but I made an excuse for you." But this time I said, "no one mentioned it." Then he snaps, "you see, everyone just cut me off." Like WE are the ones that have done the isolating!

I wanted to call back and yell. "Hey Bub...YOU are the one that made the choices to drink and isolate yourself from the family. YOU are the one that chooses to stay out all night! YOU are the one that chooses all this over your family! YOU haven't done a damn thing to salvage this relationship! AND YOU'RE the one acting like YOU got the raw end of the deal? Have you ever ONCE thought about what your actions and choices have done to others outside yourself?!"

Is this worth my breath? Should I just forget it? Or should I say something to him?

denny57

Forget it.

IMHO

theotherone

Nope...my opinion of course!

LaTeeDa

Has anything you've said to him so far made any difference?

L

isitme

I think you just said it! I'm the same way.. I just want to remind an make him think for once about someone besides himself. Of couse it never works. You never know, he may actually think about it more if you don't say anything. Maybe you finally telling him that he wasn't invited was the only thing he really needed to hear.

Good Luck, Hope you have fun!

Barbara52

You already know the answer.

suzieq1972

I wouldn't waste my breath on him.

He's an alcoholic, he's selfish. That's the way it is.

I would spend my weekend doing what I want to do.

RELAX and have fun...you deserve it.



Sue

cyclelady

I agree! Why bother - it falls on deaf ears anyway. :chatter
Have a fun weekend!

TTOSBT

Nope, but I bet it felt good to type that out!

scorpiogirl

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Originally Posted by Silverberry1331

Is this worth my breath? Should I just forget it? Or should I say something to him?

He wouldn't hear you anyway. It's tough to not say what you want yet, you'd be talking to the disease and the only one that would really angst over it is ..... you. You already know that the conversation will take you no where. Take all the anger and motivation that's inside of you and channel it into something else. Anything else that is positive for you. Continue with your process of letting go and keep posting here for support.

His disease will try and sabotage you and what you're doing for your higher good. One thing I learned from many years ago is that "I am responsible with what comes into my space; including my ears". That said, you don't have to listen to crap on the phone either. Yup!

Bernadette

It won't make a damn bit of difference to him.
But if you need to say it -- for you - say it!
Peace,
B.

GiveLove

[ GL scratches head ]

Just so I'm clear on this.......he expects to be welcomed with open arms by the family of the woman he's screwing around on?

What planet is he living on?

Holy cow, silverberry, I think he's beyond hope. Like Bernadette says, if it helps YOU to say something, do. But I certainly wouldn't have any expectations about it making ANY sort of difference in him.

When a dog barks at you, you don't get down on all fours and bark back.