new here and need to write my self off...
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: MS
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new here and need to write my self off...
Hey there...
I just found this forum last night and I have been reading here since then.
And I can see myself in most every post...
I am still married to a guy who is drinking heavily and using prescription pills>
I have left now and just waiting on some paperwork to go home to the country that I'm from...
The entire family blames me for everything, his parents are enabling him.
And claims that I have taken all the money and put away for me to go home.
I have even shown them proof of where everything has gone to but they still think that I am to blame.
He has lost several jobs because of his drinking and I have been struggling to pay the bills and had to pick and choose what bills to be paid each month.
At one point I took all of the money so I could control it, but that didn't help.
He would secretly call his parents and they would western union him money, and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how he could be drunk and high when I come home from work. But as I said then I found out that they where sending him money.
He would lie and lie and lie and make promises over and over again, and as the fool I was I kept believing in him...
He has been in the hospital for having siecures twice, due to his drinking and pill popping.
And now I am the one on the streets with the dog.
Cause his parents and him through me out after the last hospital visit...
We had just moved up here and we where staying in his parents extra apartment on their property so now I have no where to go, and I can't leave the country until earliest mid august...
It's just amazing how someone with an addiction can manipulate people like that.
And I feel completely left out, and alone and like an idiot for staying so long.
How do you get over it?
I'm hoping it will be better once I'm in my own setting and getting a new life or myself, but right now it feels so far away.
Anyways thanks for "listening"
I just found this forum last night and I have been reading here since then.
And I can see myself in most every post...
I am still married to a guy who is drinking heavily and using prescription pills>
I have left now and just waiting on some paperwork to go home to the country that I'm from...
The entire family blames me for everything, his parents are enabling him.
And claims that I have taken all the money and put away for me to go home.
I have even shown them proof of where everything has gone to but they still think that I am to blame.
He has lost several jobs because of his drinking and I have been struggling to pay the bills and had to pick and choose what bills to be paid each month.
At one point I took all of the money so I could control it, but that didn't help.
He would secretly call his parents and they would western union him money, and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how he could be drunk and high when I come home from work. But as I said then I found out that they where sending him money.
He would lie and lie and lie and make promises over and over again, and as the fool I was I kept believing in him...
He has been in the hospital for having siecures twice, due to his drinking and pill popping.
And now I am the one on the streets with the dog.
Cause his parents and him through me out after the last hospital visit...
We had just moved up here and we where staying in his parents extra apartment on their property so now I have no where to go, and I can't leave the country until earliest mid august...
It's just amazing how someone with an addiction can manipulate people like that.
And I feel completely left out, and alone and like an idiot for staying so long.
How do you get over it?
I'm hoping it will be better once I'm in my own setting and getting a new life or myself, but right now it feels so far away.
Anyways thanks for "listening"
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Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: MS
Posts: 16
I had a place to stay but he has now found me... So I don't think I can stay there anymore. I'm trying to find somewhere else, but I'm new to the state, and my friends our 3 states away, and I can't financially make the trip there...
So frustrating and it just seems that everything is going against me....
Thanks for the support!
So frustrating and it just seems that everything is going against me....
Thanks for the support!
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Welcome Berry-So sorry that you are going through this 
If you do not have somewhere to stay please look into a shelter and stay safe-A womans shelter where
he cannot find you and if he does will not be able to get in! Check out this website:
Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Keep posting here as you are not alone-
This is a horrible disease for all involved with it...however the only we can
do is keep ourselves safe and focus on us!
Sending you many positive thoughts!
If you do not have somewhere to stay please look into a shelter and stay safe-A womans shelter where
he cannot find you and if he does will not be able to get in! Check out this website:
Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Keep posting here as you are not alone-
This is a horrible disease for all involved with it...however the only we can
do is keep ourselves safe and focus on us!
Sending you many positive thoughts!
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