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The family Hero: This child, often the oldest, works hard to-
get family approval. He/She is an-
overachiever who wants to please. If he -
excels, he b/she becomes the family's
representative to the outside world.
Workaholic, parental child, very nervous,
emotional instability,doesn't want to be
told there is a problem, it is hard to get
them into treatment; often marries an alcoholic.


The Scapegoat: This child feels he is being emotionally-
rejected and uses defiance to pay back-
the family. The child antagonizes the
parents and gets most of the family's
negative attention. the scapegoat provides a
focus that keeps the attention off the drinking
parent. Acts out, doesn't like himself,high rate
of suicide, pot & alcohol.

The Lost Child: This child learns to avoid close connections
in the family. He spends much time being
alone or quietly busy. He suffers intense pain
and loneliness. He is seen by parents as being
independent, the one who can take care of
himself.
Reads by himself, avoids people, not able to-
concentrate,depression,watches T.V, doesn't
socialize, gets fat, very scared, get pregnant to
have someone to love, promiscuous.


The Family Mascot: This child often the youngest, is not-
taken too seriously, mostly because-
of his/her age. he is often hyperactive,
and uses humor and obnoxious behavior
as a way of getting attention.Clown.



Kids can change roles.70% of the children of alcoholics-
become alcoholics. The whole family has to be treated.
Kids have a high expectation of themselves, You have to-
relearn what life is all about. They have difficulty in making
close relationships. Alcohol destroys feelings. the family
focuses on the behavior of the kids.Repressed feelings built
up leads to aggression.

lexusgirl

Thanks for this post! I've read this somewhere before but needed to read it again!

rkymtncowboy

Now this is too true. I would have to be the oldest.