Feelings after breaking up
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Feelings after breaking up
You've all been very supportive and it's helped a lot.
I broke up with my ABF on Monday. Get a load of this: I feel OKAY.
I was so suspicious of this, I called my sponsor and said, "Am I in denial?" She pointed out that I did a huge amount of work (on MYSELF) to arrive at the decision I made. Perhaps I'm feeling good because I did the right thing for myself.
That would be so F---ing GREAT!
Don't get me wrong: I am feeling sadness. I have cried here and there. I am having all those kinds of thoughts & feelings we have in connection with the A. But they aren't dominating me. They're not.
That's just for today (maybe just this morning) but I'm very grateful for it. As I said, I'm doing this like I do everything else: ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I'm going to a meeting now.
I broke up with my ABF on Monday. Get a load of this: I feel OKAY.
I was so suspicious of this, I called my sponsor and said, "Am I in denial?" She pointed out that I did a huge amount of work (on MYSELF) to arrive at the decision I made. Perhaps I'm feeling good because I did the right thing for myself.
That would be so F---ing GREAT!
Don't get me wrong: I am feeling sadness. I have cried here and there. I am having all those kinds of thoughts & feelings we have in connection with the A. But they aren't dominating me. They're not.
That's just for today (maybe just this morning) but I'm very grateful for it. As I said, I'm doing this like I do everything else: ONE DAY AT A TIME.
I'm going to a meeting now.
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Sounds like you're making wonderful progress!!
I too feel that way sometimes; as though I'm ready to take on the world and stand up to my fears, but then the next week I feel some other emotion ie-fear, sadness, loss, etc. Then there are some days I just feel numb. Wow that sounds familiar lol.
I too feel that way sometimes; as though I'm ready to take on the world and stand up to my fears, but then the next week I feel some other emotion ie-fear, sadness, loss, etc. Then there are some days I just feel numb. Wow that sounds familiar lol.
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Good for you! That's great news. I would just say to go with it. Some days you may have ups and downs but go with the happy flow that your experiencing 
I'm so happy for you and your exactly right, one day at a time!
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I'm so happy for you and your exactly right, one day at a time!hugs
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Originally Posted by abcdefg 
You've all been very supportive and it's helped a lot.
I broke up with my ABF on Monday. Get a load of this: I feel OKAY.
I'm going to a meeting now.
I broke up with my ABF on Monday. Get a load of this: I feel OKAY.
I'm going to a meeting now.
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Location: California
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I hope it stays that way.....it's all good.....but don't be surprised if it doesn't.
Breakups in general are a rollercoaster. Just when you think you got it all together......you don't. Time evens it all out.
If you get down.....just keep doing what you're doing. Stay on the path and ride it out. I have turned a corner 4 months after breakup. Feeling like a veil has been lifted. Finally.
Peace.
I hope it stays that way.....it's all good.....but don't be surprised if it doesn't.
Breakups in general are a rollercoaster. Just when you think you got it all together......you don't. Time evens it all out.
If you get down.....just keep doing what you're doing. Stay on the path and ride it out. I have turned a corner 4 months after breakup. Feeling like a veil has been lifted. Finally.
Peace.
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