Seeing Some Light at the End of That Tunnel
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Seeing Some Light at the End of That Tunnel
Hi all!
I'm not going to say i'm cured by any means but this weekend was unexpectedly better than any other one yet! Nothing really became of it but i ran into someone i knew a few years ago and played in softball tournaments with. We were all out for a Halloween party at a local pub type place and he was there. I'm not going to lie, i had a big crush on him then!! Not sure his status anymore as that never came up in conversation but found out he moved near my work. Then we were leaving and so you know that awkward "gotta go" because i wasn't driving BUT i did tell tell him we would be back there next week on Wednesday and got a hug (God i sound like i'm 15 again) sorry!!!!
It was a nice feeling to be noticed when it never happens to me! My brother actually said he was looking for me when i went to the bathroom lol!!!!!
Like i said, if nothing else, at least i know i won't actually die of a broken heart from my exabf. As much as i hoped things with him worked out differently i have to move on. I'm not looking to get into another relationship but know it could happen someday
Tomorrow could be different, but i'm riding this cloud out as long as i can......
I'm not going to say i'm cured by any means but this weekend was unexpectedly better than any other one yet! Nothing really became of it but i ran into someone i knew a few years ago and played in softball tournaments with. We were all out for a Halloween party at a local pub type place and he was there. I'm not going to lie, i had a big crush on him then!! Not sure his status anymore as that never came up in conversation but found out he moved near my work. Then we were leaving and so you know that awkward "gotta go" because i wasn't driving BUT i did tell tell him we would be back there next week on Wednesday and got a hug (God i sound like i'm 15 again) sorry!!!!
It was a nice feeling to be noticed when it never happens to me! My brother actually said he was looking for me when i went to the bathroom lol!!!!!
Like i said, if nothing else, at least i know i won't actually die of a broken heart from my exabf. As much as i hoped things with him worked out differently i have to move on. I'm not looking to get into another relationship but know it could happen someday
Tomorrow could be different, but i'm riding this cloud out as long as i can......
Last edited by hbb; 10-30-2007 at 07:26 PM.
Oh, I know that great feeling of being noticed by someone you find attractive. It does wonders for the ego.
I don't want to rain on your parade, but I do worry that you are attaching your feelings of worthiness to what someone else thinks of you.
It is a trap to find our value in other people. Please remember that you are a beautiful, smart, funny, lovable person. Regardless of who pays attention to you.
L
I don't want to rain on your parade, but I do worry that you are attaching your feelings of worthiness to what someone else thinks of you.
It is a trap to find our value in other people. Please remember that you are a beautiful, smart, funny, lovable person. Regardless of who pays attention to you.
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I'm glad you had a nice time and got that thrill of excitement. Its a wonderful feeling (dang its been a long time since I've felt that!).
But Like LTD says, don't forget you are that wonderful woman no matter what.
But Like LTD says, don't forget you are that wonderful woman no matter what.
good going, heather!
i know for the longest time after my break up, i felt like no one would ever love me again. i felt like a big old pile of crap, and i started to think i looked like one too. lately, i'm being noticed and told how beautiful i am and how much people want to spend time with me, and it feels GOOD. it reminds me that i'm not as bad as i thought i was. sometimes you need help from others to get there.
i know for the longest time after my break up, i felt like no one would ever love me again. i felt like a big old pile of crap, and i started to think i looked like one too. lately, i'm being noticed and told how beautiful i am and how much people want to spend time with me, and it feels GOOD. it reminds me that i'm not as bad as i thought i was. sometimes you need help from others to get there.
from personal experience...i know that when someone pays attention to you, you feel so good that you tend to forget that you are not "cured"...I have been going through the same thing, and have been actually thinking about posting. SOmeone is interested in me, too. and i felt so good for a while that i was thinking, wow, it was just EXABF that was making me down, I am actually okay. but unfortunately, although this new person is still interested in me, and still being nice to me, my feelings of insecurity, unworthiness and just plain codependency are rearing their ugly heads again. I'm glad you are seeing a light, just don't forget to always continue to love yourself and concentrate on YOURSELF. i truly hope somethign positive comes out of this!!!!!!!!!! You deserve only the best!
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Like i said, i'm sure nothing will come of it nor do i expect it to, it was just nice to even talk to another guy for the night. I always feel i'm unapproachable so this was a nice change. I'm not looking for anyone else to complete my worthiness, just a decent night out without ending up crying by the end thinking of J!
I realized what a downer i sounded like....i'm so sorry....I didn't mean to be so negative- you know i love you Don't write this off either, Heath, maybe somethign WILL come out of it....why wouldn't it? Just don't forget to keep on working on making YOU happy without men....like i said, you only deserve the best!
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I realized what a downer i sounded like....i'm so sorry....I didn't mean to be so negative- you know i love you Don't write this off either, Heath, maybe somethign WILL come out of it....why wouldn't it? Just don't forget to keep on working on making YOU happy without men....like i said, you only deserve the best!
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Good for you, Heather! I'm glad you had an up instead of a down. I know it is 100% my friends supporting me through the past few months that has kept me from feeling despair. Like you said, if something happens, fine. If nothing happens, fine. Maybe he was brought back into your life just to help you up, and that's great! You're becoming a stronger, independent woman! Just keep riding the wave!
I really didn't mean to be negative either. I was just disappointed after I read the title that the 'light at the end of the tunnel" was another guy, instead of some big revelation or AHA moment. My expectations, my stuff. Glad you had a fun night.
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I guess i worded it probably wrong. I just meant that i went out and for the very first time in months laughed all night and genuinely had a great time. And to boot, ran into an old aquaintenance. I'm not looking for anything to necessarily come of that but that i didn't appear dead in everyone elses eyes cause that's how i have been feeling. But i understand the warnings! I'm not looking to date but i'm not ignoring it either!
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Well my light has been somewhat dimmed at the moment J's exgirlfriend lives near me and low and behold he's staying there (they are back together).....so wonderful to see that first thing in the morning on my way to the gym. I don't feel much of anything either way, pretty much knew it was the case but sux bigtime to actually SEE him there. He is a total loser.....oh i could scream at the top of my lungs....but what i should scream is HAVE A NICE LIFE....ugggghhh i'm aggravated now....
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That does suck that he's living so close. Do you own or rent? If it becomes a big problem for you, you can move. Yeah it would be a pain in the behind (Lord knows after moving twice in the past 3 months I know what a pain that is) and it could be argued that you shouldn't have to move to avoid him but it is an option.
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Thank you Barbara, i know, but unfortunately my hands are tied because i live with my brother and another roommate and i can't afford to live somewhere else in case he should stop paying the loan, then i'm responsible for paying. It's actually her house, she lives with her mother, he has his own apt. where i don't have to see him. I actually haven't seen him anywhere in months...thank God! I'm really just more annoyed that he's such a sleeeeeze ball and i know some may come on and say otherwise but i'm pi$$ed off. I"m ranting i know lol!!
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I've calmed down and have been rational this afternoon! I've come to the fact that they deserve each other, they are two people with no values, ambitions or respect. So i'm going onward but i am still angry. I'm going to need a little to relax and move forward.
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