Today is 3 mos since he walked away..
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Today is 3 mos since he walked away..
Every character or personality test I take all state that dates are important to me. I guess they are because I remember them for everything. :-)
Today is Friday the 13th. The last Friday the 13th we had my fiance A went for his alcohol assesment testing and tossed me to the curb that very night. I knew that the bottle of wine meant more than I did to him.
It was been an incredibly painful and very tearful road the last few months. I have changed everything in my life that was. And it is all so much better now. I am happy, busy, growing, challanging myself daily. I no longer am focused on the care of the alcoholic. I am focusing on me!~ His walking away though at the time made me think I was dying.....it really was the largest blessing I have seen in such a long time. I cannot thank him enough for dumping me.
That day I died. And through a process was reborn, fresh, new, full of life. I have learned where to set boundaries again. I know that I am not worth anyones abuse. My life now is limitless. Things I choose to do now will never again be controlled or manipulated by alcohol or him. I am free, I am happy, and my future looks so promising.
I never dreamed i would allow myself to be taken down the path I was. I loved him unconditionally, I loved him to a place it became unhealthy. You never want to see someone make choices that you know are bad....but I have also learned it's not my place to change what only they can.
It's a good day here on Friday the 13th, I am in a good place. I moved on and have gained a lot of healing.
.......and I wrote this without tears......for him.....or for...memories of what was.
Today is Friday the 13th. The last Friday the 13th we had my fiance A went for his alcohol assesment testing and tossed me to the curb that very night. I knew that the bottle of wine meant more than I did to him.
It was been an incredibly painful and very tearful road the last few months. I have changed everything in my life that was. And it is all so much better now. I am happy, busy, growing, challanging myself daily. I no longer am focused on the care of the alcoholic. I am focusing on me!~ His walking away though at the time made me think I was dying.....it really was the largest blessing I have seen in such a long time. I cannot thank him enough for dumping me.
That day I died. And through a process was reborn, fresh, new, full of life. I have learned where to set boundaries again. I know that I am not worth anyones abuse. My life now is limitless. Things I choose to do now will never again be controlled or manipulated by alcohol or him. I am free, I am happy, and my future looks so promising.
I never dreamed i would allow myself to be taken down the path I was. I loved him unconditionally, I loved him to a place it became unhealthy. You never want to see someone make choices that you know are bad....but I have also learned it's not my place to change what only they can.
It's a good day here on Friday the 13th, I am in a good place. I moved on and have gained a lot of healing.
.......and I wrote this without tears......for him.....or for...memories of what was.
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WHAT A MARVELOUS SUMMER YOU MUST BE HAVING! It is true, pain is the best teacher, if we are smart enough to learn our lessons before we move on. Every relationship is a vehicle for growth, especially if we see our part in it. Good for you that you live and learn. You're awesome!
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That was the most awesome thread I have ever read.....how wonderful for you sweetie...I still cry alot and my divorce from XAH was last Oct. I am better today than what I was the day he left us too...Jul 2005. Everyone here told me that it was a blessing in disguise and you know what? It was. I may have a few hard times when it comes to the money aspect of it all but heck I remember having money trouble every now and then when he was home too....so what the hay??? There was life before the alcoholic and there is life after also.
Thanks for sharing that ....again it was awesome.
Thanks for sharing that ....again it was awesome.
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Remember he didn't "walk" away he "ran" away from himself not you.
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Originally Posted by sthrnraizd 
Every character or personality test I take all state that dates are important to me. I guess they are because I remember them for everything. :-)
Today is Friday the 13th. The last Friday the 13th we had my fiance A went for his alcohol assesment testing and tossed me to the curb that very night. I knew that the bottle of wine meant more than I did to him.
It was been an incredibly painful and very tearful road the last few months. I have changed everything in my life that was. And it is all so much better now. I am happy, busy, growing, challanging myself daily. I no longer am focused on the care of the alcoholic. I am focusing on me!~ His walking away though at the time made me think I was dying.....it really was the largest blessing I have seen in such a long time. I cannot thank him enough for dumping me.
That day I died. And through a process was reborn, fresh, new, full of life. I have learned where to set boundaries again. I know that I am not worth anyones abuse. My life now is limitless. Things I choose to do now will never again be controlled or manipulated by alcohol or him. I am free, I am happy, and my future looks so promising.
I never dreamed i would allow myself to be taken down the path I was. I loved him unconditionally, I loved him to a place it became unhealthy. You never want to see someone make choices that you know are bad....but I have also learned it's not my place to change what only they can.
It's a good day here on Friday the 13th, I am in a good place. I moved on and have gained a lot of healing.
.......and I wrote this without tears......for him.....or for...memories of what was.
Today is Friday the 13th. The last Friday the 13th we had my fiance A went for his alcohol assesment testing and tossed me to the curb that very night. I knew that the bottle of wine meant more than I did to him.
It was been an incredibly painful and very tearful road the last few months. I have changed everything in my life that was. And it is all so much better now. I am happy, busy, growing, challanging myself daily. I no longer am focused on the care of the alcoholic. I am focusing on me!~ His walking away though at the time made me think I was dying.....it really was the largest blessing I have seen in such a long time. I cannot thank him enough for dumping me.
That day I died. And through a process was reborn, fresh, new, full of life. I have learned where to set boundaries again. I know that I am not worth anyones abuse. My life now is limitless. Things I choose to do now will never again be controlled or manipulated by alcohol or him. I am free, I am happy, and my future looks so promising.
I never dreamed i would allow myself to be taken down the path I was. I loved him unconditionally, I loved him to a place it became unhealthy. You never want to see someone make choices that you know are bad....but I have also learned it's not my place to change what only they can.
It's a good day here on Friday the 13th, I am in a good place. I moved on and have gained a lot of healing.
.......and I wrote this without tears......for him.....or for...memories of what was.
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((((sthrn)))) - good for you! It will be three months next weekend since i last saw my XAF when i broke our engagement..can't believe it....i am definitely much better than even last month but can't say i am where you are....yet...i know i will get there eventually....
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