queenteree

My AH has been on a big bender for over a month now. After a month or so of daily drinking, it really starts to grate on my nerves. On Monday, I casually mentioned to him that I hope this bender ends soon since it's starting to grate on my nerves. We were supposed to make a purchase of something and I said to him that I was not giving him the info until he was sober because I didn't want him to do it with an unclear head. Then I just went about my business while he drank more and passed out. Tuesday night, he was "exhausted from work" (his words, he was actually just really drunk) and went to bed early. Wednesday, he calls me from work saying "bender's over, I have to get my act together" (yeah, right!). Last night, I come home, he's "drinking soda" to make it look good, then goes out to his truck when he thinks I didn't notice, takes a beer from the back and sits in the driver's seat drinking it. I snuck outside, surpised him and said "you could have just drank that in the house, you didn't have to sneak it" and went about my business. He gave me that "deer in the headlights" look. Anyway, this morning, he tells me again "bender's over", I said to him "why put yourself thru all the withdrawals, shakes, sweating, puking and feeling like crap when you're only going to drink in two or three days from now again. Why put your body thru that, just keep drinking." Then I got ready for work and he left. I seem to be at the point where I'm like "keep drinking and speed up the process already." Is that good or bad? Your thoughts?

denny57

It's only good or bad from where you're standing. I hear the frustration in your post and I'm sorry you're having to go through it. I don't know what the purchase is, but how important is it that he be involved? By the end of our marriage, I made the decisions about everything alone.

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Sunflower

what a mess--you must be so overwhelmed by all this--my thoughts are with you!(((HUGS))))

LGLG07

so sorry thats it gotten so bad .. chero told me once that somebody told her (& so on! ) not to stand between him and his bottom . I think you are doing great . keep doing for you !!