elizabeth1979

I was very busy all weekend, garage sale and packing most of the weekend.
Was out having a late lunch at a local chain restaurant that D and I used to go to alot..well we went to the bar there alot. Before I figure things out, years back, I partied with him, thinking it would make us closer. That didnt really work, in case anyone was wondering!

I went to the restroom, passed through the bar and he was sitting at the bar, drinking.
I turned around, dint go to the restroom, told the friend I was eating with, and I left.

I got in the car and just drove and cried.
Some things never change.

All that guilt I was holding onto about whether or not I had bailed too soon, was completely wiped away. I know I did the right thing for me, and my choices never did have any affect on him, no matter how much I wa manipulating a situation to try and make them affect him.

Just wanted to share that today!

cwohio

good reinforcement - and timed so well, right before you are moving. our HP sure does know their stuff!

denny57

(((elizabeth))) sorry you had to shed the tears. maybe in a couple days you'll feel better knowing all the positives of the experience. in the meantime, sending lots of good thoughts your way.

Minx1969

(((Sarah)))

Yeah..I had a similar experience 6 months post breakup with my exabf...

ran into him on the street...he looked miserable...

Our HP does give us those little reminders..

Good luck on your move

megamysterioso

Oh goodness ((Sarah)). I bet that was a really unexpected surprise for you. I'm glad you got out of there unnoticed. I too think that it was probably a blessing in disguise for you. You can truly move forward now and know that you've done the right thing for yourself and your life.

elizabeth1979

It was a jolt to see him sitting there.
He was never the go to a bar kind of drinker.
He drank at home, in the bathroom..or closet.
I dont remember him ever going to a bar alone.
Well, like I really knew what he was doing all the time...

It was a sad, but good reinforcement, that I needed.
Its a mark of progress for me, that not for one second, did I consider walking up to him. Not one second.

Thats progress!

Janitw

(((Elizabeth))) That must have been hard to see that.....honey my heart hurts for you - but you and all of us are on to better lives. Sometimes we just stumble and second guess our wisdom..I'll say a prayer for you k.

Janet

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Well, u did great Sarah! Its hard to move on sometimes now u know! Your HP but him were u needed to see him. Your new life holds so much healing and promise! Those were cleansing tears.

dollydo

Well done, this was mean't to happen. Just the closure you needed.

Dolly