JessicaNAJ

...and it didn't bother me - wow!!

My AH is layed off. When it snows he does snow removal. I called him to see if he had gotten called into work b/c that would mean he wouldn't be here in the morning to get the kids.

He was drinking. It didn't bother me. I didn't get defensive, I didn't question, I didn't keep asking him if he was going to be here, and I wasn't disappointed... I just asked if he would call me in the morning to let me know either way if he'd be here or not.

I surprised myself - I don't know what to make of it, but it sure feels good. So I'm just going to leave it at that

BTW - I'm sticking to plan "A". Getting up early and the kids ready so I can get them off myself (we all know how reliable my AH is not )

Dee at Mt Bully

Good for you--give yourself a gold star--you deserve it--Smiles--Dee

queenofthehwy

Good job!!! Did you ever think you would get to that point??? I always just thought MINE was unreliable guess not huh.

Mindi

cwohio

jessica - progress is a wonderful thing!

cupowater

Yes, I feel the same way about my AH. If he drinks, it's ok. That just means I can have time to myself. Detatchment!

JessicaNAJ

I'm not sure I every really thought about it. It was weird how I didn't have the urge to react. I didn't realize it until after I got off the phone.

I know I'm working hard to get over this obsessive behavior I seem to have. I guess you could say I'm challenging my counselor b/c she told me at our last session it seemed I was addicted to his alcoholic behavior - Although I didn't like the reality of that, she was right.

BTW - I'm not sure how my initial post sounded, but my AH is very unreliable.