A good day for a change
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A good day for a change
Im hoping that posting this thread with give me the strength to continue not to drink....
My husband was out of town last night I had two bottles of wine. I fell into my kitchen countertop and gave myself a black eye, stumbled around the house and scared my two kids... I don't/didnt drink every day.... I do/did about three times a week...
I hate the feeling, the guilt, and hate that my kids may remember me stumbling through our home... This morning I had a talk with my daughter about my night... she is 6. I told her that I had too many adult beverages, and that I was sorry. Naturally she didn't care, but to me, it was a big deal.... I told her I was not going to do that again. I have never talked to her about alcohol... so to me, this was major. Im GOING TO MAKE A CHANGE
I called my husband after and told him what I had done. We have had disagreements about my drinking in the past. He was upset, I can tell... but this is also one of the first times I ever called him and admitted how much I drank and what my actions were. He is going to support me and help me through this new adventure. I can't keep hurting my family.
I've tried to quit before, lasting months at a time, but always gave in when hanging out with my friends. I can't just have one drink... it obviously doesn't work out that way. I am 27, I have a chance to live the rest of my life happy and sober. I just hope I have the strength.
My husband was out of town last night I had two bottles of wine. I fell into my kitchen countertop and gave myself a black eye, stumbled around the house and scared my two kids... I don't/didnt drink every day.... I do/did about three times a week...
I hate the feeling, the guilt, and hate that my kids may remember me stumbling through our home... This morning I had a talk with my daughter about my night... she is 6. I told her that I had too many adult beverages, and that I was sorry. Naturally she didn't care, but to me, it was a big deal.... I told her I was not going to do that again. I have never talked to her about alcohol... so to me, this was major. Im GOING TO MAKE A CHANGE
I called my husband after and told him what I had done. We have had disagreements about my drinking in the past. He was upset, I can tell... but this is also one of the first times I ever called him and admitted how much I drank and what my actions were. He is going to support me and help me through this new adventure. I can't keep hurting my family.
I've tried to quit before, lasting months at a time, but always gave in when hanging out with my friends. I can't just have one drink... it obviously doesn't work out that way. I am 27, I have a chance to live the rest of my life happy and sober. I just hope I have the strength.
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Welcome to the family. 
Come up with a good plan as to how you're going to stay sober. Part of that plan could consist of posting and reading here every day.
I hope our support and collective wisdom can help you stay sober for good.
Come up with a good plan as to how you're going to stay sober. Part of that plan could consist of posting and reading here every day. I hope our support and collective wisdom can help you stay sober for good.
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Welcome foreverflawlyss! I'm very glad you're here. This is a wonderful, supportive place and you will find much advice, wisdom, hope, and love. Sober Recovery is a huge part of my recovery plan; I hope you continue to read and post here first when you are tempted to have a drink--the good people here will help. You are young and can turn this around and be there completely for your family. Wishing you all the best on your sober journey.
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Welcome. One of my obstacles early on was friends who wanted me to join it. When I finally quit, and had to change my circle of friends. Learning to avoid high risk situations is something we go through. Actually, there is little learning involved. We just have to stop doing it. Later on when you are less at risk, you may be able to be around drinking friends, but it's dangerous and often a downfall for many.
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Foreverflawlyss - It's so great to have you with us. SR helped me find the strength to give up a 30 yr. drinking career.
I'd give anything to go back to 27 and take action, the way you're doing. I knew in my heart that I wasn't a normal social drinker. It was fun and relaxing for a long time - I just couldn't bring myself to admit it had become a necessity. I tried everything to control the amounts I drank - to moderate. I wasted years on that impossible fantasy. Your simple statement, "I can't just have one drink" says it all. Had I acknowledged that many years ago, my life would have never fallen apart. I commend you for owning what's going on and vowing to make this big change in your life. You can do it!
I'd give anything to go back to 27 and take action, the way you're doing. I knew in my heart that I wasn't a normal social drinker. It was fun and relaxing for a long time - I just couldn't bring myself to admit it had become a necessity. I tried everything to control the amounts I drank - to moderate. I wasted years on that impossible fantasy. Your simple statement, "I can't just have one drink" says it all. Had I acknowledged that many years ago, my life would have never fallen apart. I commend you for owning what's going on and vowing to make this big change in your life. You can do it!
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Welcome Foreverflawlyss, glad that you are here sounds like a good time to make some changes, your drinking sounds a little like mine in the countless bottles, stumbling round the house sense, SR is a major reason I have 5 months sobriety and a commitment to the knowledge that I do not drink.
Post daily and let us know how you are doing, there is usually someone around if you're feeling triggered and need talking out of a drink or just some well reasoned words of support.
hoping to see you on here soon
Love Billy x
sounds like a good time to make some changes, your drinking sounds a little like mine in the countless bottles, stumbling round the house sense, SR is a major reason I have 5 months sobriety and a commitment to the knowledge that I do not drink. Post daily and let us know how you are doing, there is usually someone around if you're feeling triggered and need talking out of a drink or just some well reasoned words of support.
hoping to see you on here soon
Love Billy x
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