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Kim
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Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Virginia Beach, VA
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Newbie here
Hi, I'm not sure where I'm supposed to go. My husband (for now) has a drinking problem (no matter what he says) & both my parents are daily drinkers. My husband just told me yesterday that he no longer wants to work on our marriage & slept out last night. :tissue We have 2 kids 10&3, all we do is fight because he is never home. He is addicted to work, beer, porn & his friends. He blames me for everything & is verbally & emotionally abusive. We have been together for 12 years but have split up more times than I can count. I want to stop this cycle but can't seem too. I feel like I'm addicted to him. :hairout I joke that he is like crack. I can not bare the thought of him w/ someone else, it would kill me if he treated them better than he has teated me. I feel like I have done everything possible to make him love me but he stays away from home as much as possible. (Enough Rambling) Anyway, what board should I go to? I need help! Thanks for listening.
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Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: The Field of Dreams
Posts: 7,249
HW,I am sorry to hear all this.Anyway,I just wanted to welcome you to SoberRecovery.I hope you keep coming back.Also,try posting in the Al-Anon,and Friends and family Forums.You can meet a lot of other women who are in simular situations and can also offer some support.Hang in there.
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 4,955
Hey Wench,
Welcome to Sober Recovery.
If you feel like you've done all you can, you probably have. And then some.
Work, beer, porn and his friends, huh?
That's quite a list.
I'm sure you don't deserve to be at the end of it.
There are lots of people on the Friends and Family board and the Naranon board who understand what you're going through.
Come join us there.
Gabe
Welcome to Sober Recovery.
If you feel like you've done all you can, you probably have. And then some.
Work, beer, porn and his friends, huh?
That's quite a list.
I'm sure you don't deserve to be at the end of it.
There are lots of people on the Friends and Family board and the Naranon board who understand what you're going through.
Come join us there.
Gabe
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Join Date: May 2004
Location: east coast
Posts: 2,440
Hi Kim and welcome aboard. As the others said, there is alot of help at the friends and family forum. You are not alone. Do not blame yourself for his actions and choices. He made them and he has to be accountable for them. I will say a prayer for you. Just know that you need to take care of yourself, for you and your kids. Hope to see you around.
Sherry
Sherry
Dancing To My Own Beat
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: I don't know what kind of state I'm in
Posts: 1,326
Hi Kim,
Welcome to SR. The "Friends and Families of Alcoholics" forum is great. I know exactly what you mean by feeling addicted to the alcoholic. I realized I had as much of a problem with myself as he had. I decided that I was going to get help and get better whether he did or not.
There are a lot of us who love alcoholics. The good news is that we can learn to love ourself too. There are so many avenues for help. Books, support, coping skills. There aren't any magic wands, but there are solutions. Hope to see you soon on the forum. Hugs, Magic
Welcome to SR. The "Friends and Families of Alcoholics" forum is great. I know exactly what you mean by feeling addicted to the alcoholic. I realized I had as much of a problem with myself as he had. I decided that I was going to get help and get better whether he did or not.
There are a lot of us who love alcoholics. The good news is that we can learn to love ourself too. There are so many avenues for help. Books, support, coping skills. There aren't any magic wands, but there are solutions. Hope to see you soon on the forum. Hugs, Magic
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