Well done, when you’re sister visits I wouldn’t have alcohol in the house at all, I’ve slipped many times this way, keep going 👍

🙂 I’m still worried about slipping up after eight months, and I always will be. The cravings become rarer and less intense, but they’ll always be there.

I’m not sure what your 90 day target signifies. I’m sure you’ve read enough posts on here to know it’s a lifelong thing to stay sober. It took me years to realise that, and I now know that any slip up will send me ha n to day one and those lingering urges.

But well done to you so far. Be sure to tell your sister and everyone else that you’ve quit drinking forever.

Unfortunately, there’s always alcohol in my house because my husband drinks. I’ve managed to stay away from it so far and I hope to continue doing so. I’ve temporarily replaced my go to alcoholic drinks for things like soda and coffee, neither of which I drank before quitting. So if I’m thirsty, for example, and don’t want water, instead of grabbing a beer, I’ll get soda... Instead of wine to ‘relax’, I’ll drink coffee... So far so good.

Thank you.

Thank you, Houstin.

Thank you 😊.

I haven’t told my sister, or anyone else for that matter, that I’ve quit. I know, I know, that’s not good. It’s silly, really, but I’m afraid I’ll look a fool AGAIN if I slip up. I’m hoping to ‘tell them’ by my actions directly instead.

Thanks a lot.

My sister doesn’t know that I’ve quit yet. Obviously I’ll tell her when she’s here but I don’t want to make a huuuge deal about it, otherwise the whole conversation will turn into one about my alcoholism, how it runs in the family, etc. Those aren’t things I wish to discuss right now.

I’ve read here that around 90 days is when the cravings and urges really subside and one truly begins to appreciate sobriety? I’m paraphrasing. Anyway, what I hope to achieve at that point is to have stopped that voice that tells me it would be good to drink now and again. At least now I recognize it as the AV and I can challenge it and come out winning but there have been some tough times when I was quite wobbly in my conviction. For example, I can hardly stay up with my husband to watch tv anymore (after the kids are in bed) because I don’t drink and that night time/ situation is such a trigger for me. I hope to be able to do things like that comfortably again in future, without risking my sobriety.

Thank you.

Everyone’s different, but I guess by day 90 (I’m 8 months in), the cravings should be 95% gone, yes. In any case, by then and before, you’ll have a few strategies to overcome cravings.

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Thanks a lot.

I think I just got fed up with drinking. I still romanticize it sometimes but I know exactly what it is I’m dealing with. In my mind, a slip up means a full blown relapse from which I’m not sure if and when I’d recover. When the AV gets the better of me and I daydream about drinking, it’s never just a glass of wine; it’s a bottle or two, knowing fully where that would take me. I think I’m just feeling fed up with that cyclical ending; no solutions, only new problems. Plus I have 2 little children. I don’t see how alcohol (the way I like to drink it) fits in with my role in their lives. It stopped working for me; even the little I used to glean from drunkenness is gone. There’s no point anymore; I was getting nothing out of my relationship with alcohol so I had to sever ties.These realizations have kept me sober thus far.

That said, I acknowledge I need to work out a clearer and more ‘tangible’ recovery plan going forward. I’ll be working on that now. 🤗