fancy

My 20 year old son came up to my job today to ask why his dad called his probaation officer..I didn't know anything and come to find out H didn't...I teach 1st grade and I warned him when he walked in he would not make a spectacle of himself. Luckily th student had PE and I had a meeting I just walked out. One of my co workers asked me later if that was my son yelling at me I called the JP and asked about a restraining order..not from home but from my job. After he left me he went to see his dad at his job, my husband did call his probation officer later and told him my son did not have a job. This is what my son was afraid of. He has been lying to the PO since August.....I can not have him coming to my job, how you react if your child was in my class and the teachers sone came in and cause a distrubance?

Ann

Fancy

It's not your fault that he behaved badly. Just do what you can to keep him from coming again, including having him escorted out if he does.

Hugs
Ann

rock_bottom

hey, you did what you had to do. except i wouldn't have been able to stop myself from dragging my son out of the room by his ear and showing him what respect is all about! i live with a woman who has two sons on probation. one is 20 and the other one (my boyfriend) is 16. from my experience, it is not easy to deal with all of this ****, but i had to accept that it is pretty much out of my hands. your son is going to do what he wants to. if he gets in trouble or thrown in to jail for not doing what needs to be done, than that is your sons deal. i know this is hard to accept, but worrying too much may inflict upon your health. do what you got to do and leave the rest to your son. trust me, that all you can do. good luck
seana

mammacat

Hi Fancy, (((hugs)))
Do you think you could talk with the people at school? Some schools you have to sign in as soon as you walk in or even be buzzed in, you could ask the office to not allow him to come see you, ask him to leave. Or maybe confide in one of the bigger male teachers and have him escort your son out.
I also think setting boundries might be a good idea too. Tell your son " If you come to my job yelling at me again, I wil..." but what ever the " I will..." is you have to stick to it.
You might be able to get a restraining order for just your work, I hope you can. You don't deserve that, nobody does.
Hang in there

splendra

.....if my kid came home from school and said some man came it to his class room and starting yelling at his teacher I think I would want an explaination...I understand about addiction and I know that it crosses all boundries and social classes.....But, not all parents would have the experience with addiction that I do and probably at least one parent might make a fuss...

I hope you do everything possible to keep your son from going to your job again because no doubt it could cost you.....

JT

fancy,

I used to do home daycare...I did it for 8 years, loved it and was successful. My son is the one that ended that. He would create a problem knowing that I would not have a blow up with the children in my home. He had me over a barrel so I quit. I think when I retire I might still take in a couple of babies...I love them.

There is security in schools today isn't there? I would not allow him on the grounds! Whatever it takes.

Hugs,
JT

Chy

I'm a teacher to, and we have plans of actions in place for such instances, I deal with high school kids and we have varying instances similar to what you went through. You can talk to your security officer, or AP. Make a plan with your collegues next to you, if you don't have phones in your room, send them a red flag you need assistance and need security immediatly. I have a red pass I send next door or across the hall to a collegue when I'm in trouble, it simply has my room number on it an my phone extension, and we all know when we get it to call for help immediatly. You can make a plan to avoid future instances.

fancy

Thanks to all of you for the adice and just for listening. My H and I discussed this last night and I will talk to my Principal Monday morning. He is a family friend and has been supportive the whole five years we have struggled with this. I am going to look for an al anon meeting..this board has helped so much I think the meeting would be a great start.