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He’s promising to be committed to his sobriety. He will do whatever it takes he says. I say until it calls again. He says that’s always a risk. He says if you’re moving ahead with the divorce I’m not sticking around tho. I say get divorced work on your addiction see what happens. He says not sticking around in a divorce situation. I say ok. He continued but I’ll do whatever! I’ve hit rock bottom. I just don’t believe him this time.
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Words. Totally meaningless.
So his logic is that you stop the divorce or he’s leaving?
Does this make any sense to you?
At some point you’re going to decide what you’re going to do, And then stop letting him yammer at you, because it just keeps you stuck, yes?
So his logic is that you stop the divorce or he’s leaving?
Does this make any sense to you?
At some point you’re going to decide what you’re going to do, And then stop letting him yammer at you, because it just keeps you stuck, yes?
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain 
Words. Totally meaningless.
So his logic is that you stop the divorce or he’s leaving?
Does this make any sense to you?
At some point you’re going to decide what you’re going to do, And then stop letting him yammer at you, because it just keeps you stuck, yes?
So his logic is that you stop the divorce or he’s leaving?
Does this make any sense to you?
At some point you’re going to decide what you’re going to do, And then stop letting him yammer at you, because it just keeps you stuck, yes?
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Dazed.....the only thing you can do is watch the Actions (not words)...over time.
time will tell...…
I can still remember my dear grandma's words...a gazillion times...when I would ask her how something was going to turn out....she would always say "Only time will tell".....
time will tell...…
I can still remember my dear grandma's words...a gazillion times...when I would ask her how something was going to turn out....she would always say "Only time will tell".....
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Originally Posted by dandylion
Dazed.....the only thing you can do is watch the Actions (not words)...over time.
time will tell...…
I can still remember my dear grandma's words...a gazillion times...when I would ask her how something was going to turn out....she would always say "Only time will tell".....
time will tell...…
I can still remember my dear grandma's words...a gazillion times...when I would ask her how something was going to turn out....she would always say "Only time will tell".....
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
he magically has a place in rehab TOMORROW?
he can say whatever he wants, and he will try to say anything to get you to stop talking about drinking. the proof is in the pudding, as they say.
he can say whatever he wants, and he will try to say anything to get you to stop talking about drinking. the proof is in the pudding, as they say.
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
hopefully you now see that NOTHING you do has the power to effect CHANGE in him? tis best to just concern your self with YOUR plans and then follow thru with them.
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Originally Posted by Bekindalways
Does he get out of the house in the next few days? How are your own plans/activities/support coming along.
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Thinking I might extend his time to stay until the divorce is final so I can keep an eye on the keys if he goes off the deep end. That would be a few months. Cheap price to pay to protect society I think.
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Um...really? Six more months of arguments, tears, monitoring his drunk level, hiding his keys, useless calls to police, waking up to vomiting, dealing with him walking to the store wearing nothing but his shoes?
Are you maybe conning yourself just a tad?
Are you maybe conning yourself just a tad?
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Originally Posted by Ariesagain
Um...really? Six more months of arguments, tears, monitoring his drunk level, hiding his keys, useless calls to police, waking up to vomiting, dealing with him walking to the store wearing nothing but his shoes?
Are you maybe conning yourself just a tad?
Are you maybe conning yourself just a tad?
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please remember, he has SAID about 32 different things in the past few days. try not to take each and every word out of his mouth as god's truth.
was your motive in filing for divorce to end the marital contract and be done OR was it a maneuver made in hopes it would get him to change?
was your motive in filing for divorce to end the marital contract and be done OR was it a maneuver made in hopes it would get him to change?
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Originally Posted by AnvilheadII
please remember, he has SAID about 32 different things in the past few days. try not to take each and every word out of his mouth as god's truth.
was your motive in filing for divorce to end the marital contract and be done OR was it a maneuver made in hopes it would get him to change?
was your motive in filing for divorce to end the marital contract and be done OR was it a maneuver made in hopes it would get him to change?
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus
to be honest a little of both leaning more towards protecting myself. My A is really the best guy. I just can’t go thru the Alcoholic episodes anymore. It’s absolute madness, as you all know.
Dazed, I can't remember if someone here has told you about "Gray Rock". It is a method of dealing with narcissists but people use it on alcoholics too. It might be worth a look.
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