Lost Friends?
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Lost Friends?
I was wondering if anyone has faced the very real possibility of losing friends over sobriety.
I find myself distancing myself from a good friend, if only because we often socialized via drinking. I'm trying not to feel bad about it, hoping he hasn't noticed the distance. Hoping maybe I'll get over this- but also ready to do anything I can to help my sobriety.
Anyone had any losses in the quest for sobriety? What was your experience?
I find myself distancing myself from a good friend, if only because we often socialized via drinking. I'm trying not to feel bad about it, hoping he hasn't noticed the distance. Hoping maybe I'll get over this- but also ready to do anything I can to help my sobriety.
Anyone had any losses in the quest for sobriety? What was your experience?
I lost a good may people I considered friends when I got sober.
From the vantage point of a decade on I can see a relationship built largely or even completely on a shared love of getting wasted was probably not that great to begin with.
A very few of my drinking buddies stuck by me and even decided by themselves not to drink around me. Those are the folks I consider real friends.
I gained a lot of new friends and reconnected with old ones my drinking had driven away.
I regret nothing
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From the vantage point of a decade on I can see a relationship built largely or even completely on a shared love of getting wasted was probably not that great to begin with.
A very few of my drinking buddies stuck by me and even decided by themselves not to drink around me. Those are the folks I consider real friends.
I gained a lot of new friends and reconnected with old ones my drinking had driven away.
I regret nothing
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I lost a hell of a lot of friends when I stopped for 5 months a few years ago, but we used to drink at the same pub. I got over it. When I ended up going back, the whole group were still there like it was yesterday and I was back where I started, still having the same conversations etc.
When I joined the Police in 2002,one of the interviewers asked if I'd lost friends due to joining the police. I said I had (two mates I had known since school couldn't accept my new career choice). He just said, "They weren't very good friends then were they?" He was blunt, but spot on.
When I joined the Police in 2002,one of the interviewers asked if I'd lost friends due to joining the police. I said I had (two mates I had known since school couldn't accept my new career choice). He just said, "They weren't very good friends then were they?" He was blunt, but spot on.
Yes, it's a reality. There are other things that you lose.too.
Not one of those losses is worth everything I've gained, a better life in each and every way. You don't get the most important things, of real value and sustenance in life without work and sacrifice. The struggle is worth it.
Not one of those losses is worth everything I've gained, a better life in each and every way. You don't get the most important things, of real value and sustenance in life without work and sacrifice. The struggle is worth it.
I lost some drinking buddies, but then again all we had in common was alcohol so I really didn’t lose much there. Certainly I had a few close acquaintances from my regular drinking establishment that I still occasionally see, but I knew them from outside the drinking world already.
But if someone were to hold my sobriety against me and not want to be my friend because of it that says a lot more about them than me. And I would have no problem moving on without a second thought.
But if someone were to hold my sobriety against me and not want to be my friend because of it that says a lot more about them than me. And I would have no problem moving on without a second thought.
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