Getting divorced after 11 years together

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05-12-2018, 02:05 PM

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garys

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Getting divorced after 11 years together

My wife and I have not been doing well for several years and last night she suggested we get a divorce and I agreed, It has still been a big shock and I dread telling my family. Shame issues are huge with me. Lookin for stories from others who have gone through divorce in sobriety,

05-12-2018, 03:56 PM

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MissPerfumado

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There are a number of folks on these boards who have gone through divorces, break-ups and other upheavals in sobriety. I'm not one of them but I wish you the best and hope you get some insights from others.

How long have you been sober if I may ask?

05-12-2018, 04:34 PM

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Dee74

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No experience to share here garys, but I know you'll find it here from others. Welcome to SR

05-12-2018, 04:49 PM

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Welcome to the family.

I went thru a breakup about 20 yrs ago. I was not drinking at the time, that would have made the situation worse.

It took a while to get used to a new way of life, but I did, and am happy today.

05-12-2018, 04:57 PM

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icewater1961

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Yes but that was a long time ago and I was not a raging alcoholic yet.!The subsequent breakups happened when I was drinking and because I was drinking, I was not married three times, only once and the divorce was amicable. We even moved back together after the divorce. But I lost a 15 year relationship to alcohol. He gave me every chance but could not take it anymore. If I could turn the clock back I would have done things differently. Alcoholics make bad decisions. It was horrible. Stay strong!