Treating yourself like someone who deserves to be taken care of
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Treating yourself like someone who deserves to be taken care of
How would I treat yourself if you could step out of your shoes and look at yourself objectively?
What advice would you give? What would you tell yourself not to do? What actions would you suggest?
Wouldn't you be kind? Maybe stern, maybe more tolerant, maybe less.
What if you could see yourself as someone who deserves to be treated with respect?
What if you could treat yourself like a good parent would? Not shame, not berate, not abuse.
What would that be like?
What advice would you give? What would you tell yourself not to do? What actions would you suggest?
Wouldn't you be kind? Maybe stern, maybe more tolerant, maybe less.
What if you could see yourself as someone who deserves to be treated with respect?
What if you could treat yourself like a good parent would? Not shame, not berate, not abuse.
What would that be like?
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Are you asking because you don't feel you are treating yourself fairly?
My answer to almost all of your questions would mostly be just to be honest. Shame, guilt, lack of respect and objectivity almost always exist because one or both sides aren't being honest or fully forthcoming in what they feel or need.
My answer to almost all of your questions would mostly be just to be honest. Shame, guilt, lack of respect and objectivity almost always exist because one or both sides aren't being honest or fully forthcoming in what they feel or need.
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It's only the most important thing you'll ever do. 
The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.
- Pemba Chodrin
The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.
- Pemba Chodrin
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I was talking to a counselor a few weeks ago (I've been suffering delayed grief after the death of my Father in 2014) and they did say to me- be kind to yourself. People can be harsh on themselves- especially the self hatred I've personally experienced with alcohol. I know I can truly hate myself and see no redeeming features but the past couple of weeks, I am trying so be better to myself.
I can't change stuff I've said or done, all I can do is work towards trying to be better.
I can't change stuff I've said or done, all I can do is work towards trying to be better.
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Originally Posted by ScottFromWI 
Are you asking because you don't feel you are treating yourself fairly?
My answer to almost all of your questions would mostly be just to be honest. Shame, guilt, lack of respect and objectivity almost always exist because one or both sides aren't being honest or fully forthcoming in what they feel or need.
My answer to almost all of your questions would mostly be just to be honest. Shame, guilt, lack of respect and objectivity almost always exist because one or both sides aren't being honest or fully forthcoming in what they feel or need.
If someone treated themselves this way, they would take care of themselves in the best way possible.
Being a good parent to yourself - treating yourself with respect, firmness, kindness, gentleness, discipline - is the best way to treat yourself.
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