Terps19

Well made it through day 3 . But I have no motivation to stay sober. How do you get through a day like today? It's like I am looking for an excuse to drink.

Sunflowerlife

Can you remind yourself of WHY you want to get sober in the first place? For me the excuses disappeared as soon as my desire to stay sober was greater than my desire to be drunk.

Anna

I'm sorry you're struggling and be proud of getting through to Day 4. Do you believe things will be better if you drink? I'd be really surprised if that happened. Hang in there and get through this tough spot. Be kind to yourself today and be proud of your accomplishment. Try to remember the reasons why you stopped drinking.

2muchpain

The first week is tough. Just no way around it. That's why some people say "one day at a time". Sometimes one hour at a time. Like was said earlier, try to remember why you decided to get sober. The last thing you want to do is to have to start over. Just not worth it. Trust me, it gets a lot easier. John

shockozulu

There were times near my quit date I felt the same way. I kept myself busy with activities using my mind and body. I chose tasks I would not be able to do if I had been drinking (knitting for fine motor skills, adult coloring books while watching my favorite thinking TV shows). Eventually these times will pass, and you will have a new healthy hobby to keep improving on.

Terps19

Reasons for being sober mainly revolve around me knowing that what I am doing is not good for me and the desire to want to feel better. Not be hungover etc. I'm not getting sober for anyone as I don't really have anyone like a family. So I don't havent wronged any family or wronged a gf. I don't have anyone and I probably used drinking as an escape for that loneliness

Nonsensical

How would you describe someone who requires motivation to not drink? In whose reality does that kind of thinking appear to be normal or even reasonable?

Do you want to be that guy?

SimplyE

By not drinking maybe you will get out more. I am doing that myself very slowly. The loneliness and anxiety are beyond rough for me. Good job going into day 4 and posting here.

least

I stayed sober because I was sick and tired of always being sick and tired. I was sick of waking up feeling horrible and hating myself.

Terps19

And what guy is that? Sorry to have burdened you with the post. In whose reality is drinking everyday normal? Many people who do not have problem with alcohol do not think it reasonable or normal to go through all the things that alcoholics do to drink or get money to drink. Are you saying that no one has needed a bit of encouragement to stay sober? Come on. Sorry but I do not see the point of your criticism.

nova84

Hi Terps19

I think you suggestion that has been made to remind yourself why you made the decision to embrace sobriety 4 days ago is a great idea. Below are my reasons which I keep pinned to the home screen of my phone to remind me at all times:

•Decisions and actions that could have destroyed my life
•Painful hangovers
•Days of anxiety recovering from a binge
•Wasted days in bed recovering
•Feeling tired on a Monday morning rather than refreshed and energetic
•I want to be a mother
•Shame and guilt
•Ruining my wedding night...not remembering the whole party
•Impacts on my ability and motivation to exercise
•It troubles my husband
•Not remembering time spent with others...not creating memories

What's your list look like Terps19?

Wishing you well on the rest of your recovery journey x

Terps19

Thank you for the thoughtful post. Your list is much appreciated.

ThatWasTheOldMe

Why did you stop on day 1?

Dee74

You must have dreams and aims Terps.
You must want better for yourself ?

You'll never get there drinking.

Early recovery is hard, for sure - but it's a finite period.
This is not the best it's going to get

Hang in there - I don't know how long you drank for, but why not give not drinking a decent go?

D