Waking up knowing your friend might be dead
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Waking up knowing your friend might be dead
Last I heard from him he was drinking himself either to death or to suicide....
He was running out of money and alcohol..... homeless, jobless, refusing to go to the hospital....
The bottom of rock bottom, and then below that.
Haven't heard from him in about 16 hours. His family hasn't either.
Here is a young man, just turned 30 not long ago..... a loving man... a smart man.... a man with a good heart.....
In a dive motel with the last money he probably robbed from someone.... crying out for help, but refusing to get help.....
Riding this addiction and his resultant mental state into the depths.
This stuff is tragic, people. Don't think you're immune. It can and will take you down, down, down.....
"I can stop later" - you might keep telling yourself.
"I'm not like them" - you might rationalize.
"It won't happen to me" - you probably have said.
Until one day, you wake up dead.
And your friends and your family and even your poor, terrified little dog all sit stunned and helpless.... watching you go.
GET SOBER.
He was running out of money and alcohol..... homeless, jobless, refusing to go to the hospital....
The bottom of rock bottom, and then below that.
Haven't heard from him in about 16 hours. His family hasn't either.
Here is a young man, just turned 30 not long ago..... a loving man... a smart man.... a man with a good heart.....
In a dive motel with the last money he probably robbed from someone.... crying out for help, but refusing to get help.....
Riding this addiction and his resultant mental state into the depths.
This stuff is tragic, people. Don't think you're immune. It can and will take you down, down, down.....
"I can stop later" - you might keep telling yourself.
"I'm not like them" - you might rationalize.
"It won't happen to me" - you probably have said.
Until one day, you wake up dead.
And your friends and your family and even your poor, terrified little dog all sit stunned and helpless.... watching you go.
GET SOBER.
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thanks all.... I heard from him. He apparently got to the ER via ambulance last night. They gave him meds to help with his DT's / detox then kicked him back loose to the streets..... again.
He says is father is taking him to psych ward later today.... so there's still hope... he's still alive....
He says is father is taking him to psych ward later today.... so there's still hope... he's still alive....
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl 
thanks all.... I heard from him. He apparently got to the ER via ambulance last night. They gave him meds to help with his DT's / detox then kicked him back loose to the streets..... again.
He says is father is taking him to psych ward later today.... so there's still hope... he's still alive....
He says is father is taking him to psych ward later today.... so there's still hope... he's still alive....
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was chatting to a friend, sponsor, 37-year sober veteran this morning he told me about one of his AA folks that he was guiding who he discovered at one point having been in filth on the beach so long that his socks were fused to his feet..... guy later became a successful Hollywood film industry worker after getting sober and getting his life back.
if there's still breath in you, there's still hope....
if there's still breath in you, there's still hope....
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Not sure this will help your friend but, I have found structure/responsibilities have helped me. I know when I had 'endless funds and time' on my hands, I was at my worst. The whole "Idle hands are the devil's playground" thing.. Of course, as we all know, it HAS to be him that does/wants it. Thoughts to you and your friend.
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Originally Posted by SoberLeigh
How is your friend doing, FreeOwl?
He was brought to the ER and - thankfully - wound up making a connection with a local resource that is helping him get some much-needed mental health attention.
Hopefully this is a turn of events that will help him get help - and not just another temporary reprieve in his downward spiral.
For now, he is alive and safe and under care.
Thanks for checking.
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Originally Posted by PhoenixJ
How are you FO?
I can't really do much more for my friend than be there, help encourage him to stick with the help he's being offered, and go visit him once he's (hopefully) settled into a safe and stable situation.
One of the hardest things is recognizing where to set boundaries on one's emotions and one's energy in trying to "be there" for someone who has been on this downward spiral for so long.....
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Originally Posted by FreeOwl
Until one day, you wake up dead.
I hate that.
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