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Join Date: Jan 2017
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Hello all
Very new to this kind if thing..
I have always been a fairly heavy drinker (33yo) male. Recently I have broken up with my partner of 4 years as our relationship was very stressful sometimes due to my drinking habits
I am now regretting the break up as I feel I have let go of something special.
Since breaking up my drinking has become out if control. I only ever drink on the weekend and have a hard time stopping once I begin drinking
I am on medication for anxiety which gives me massive memory blanks if I consume alcohol
I have an alcoholic brother, father and mother drinks a lot too.
I'm very scared of heading down the same path and I want to make the changes now before it's too late
Any advice would be warmly welcomed
I have always been a fairly heavy drinker (33yo) male. Recently I have broken up with my partner of 4 years as our relationship was very stressful sometimes due to my drinking habits
I am now regretting the break up as I feel I have let go of something special.
Since breaking up my drinking has become out if control. I only ever drink on the weekend and have a hard time stopping once I begin drinking
I am on medication for anxiety which gives me massive memory blanks if I consume alcohol
I have an alcoholic brother, father and mother drinks a lot too.
I'm very scared of heading down the same path and I want to make the changes now before it's too late
Any advice would be warmly welcomed
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Welcome to SR AceAshtonowens - it's wonderful to have you with us.
That was my problem too - not being able to stop once I started. I didn't do a thing about it in my 30's - kept drinking for many more years. I never intended to lose control of my life, but that's what happened. I'm glad you wanted to talk about what's going on. This is a great place for encouragement.
That was my problem too - not being able to stop once I started. I didn't do a thing about it in my 30's - kept drinking for many more years. I never intended to lose control of my life, but that's what happened. I'm glad you wanted to talk about what's going on. This is a great place for encouragement.
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Join Date: Jan 2017
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Thank you,
It's nice to be here knowing there are people to talk to about my issues with alcohol.
I have a very social group of friends which makes it hard as there is always a party, stag night, wedding or get together on weekends which I like attending but find it hard to stop the beers once they are flowing especially when I am in a good mood
Would anyone be able to recommend the best type of professional to see regarding this ie my GP, psychiatrist, psychologist or life coach of some sort
It's nice to be here knowing there are people to talk to about my issues with alcohol.
I have a very social group of friends which makes it hard as there is always a party, stag night, wedding or get together on weekends which I like attending but find it hard to stop the beers once they are flowing especially when I am in a good mood
Would anyone be able to recommend the best type of professional to see regarding this ie my GP, psychiatrist, psychologist or life coach of some sort
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Join Date: Aug 2014
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Also a binge drinker. Went all week sober, then I would drink like a pirate, often to blackout (still moving & interacting, but no memory at all). I believe we all have different chemistries, & that was mine (& apparently yours).
You lost an important relationship. Because of behavior under the influence of a beverage. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that you should likely not allow that influence! And I say this as a person who struggled deeply (& still struggles) to accept this reality.
When we lose what we care about, we know. You know.
You've found an excellent community here. Read & read. Post & post.
If you're not sure that you are ready to choose abstinence from alcohol, I suggest trying it for a few months. This experiment will likely reveal that : a) you are more dependent on it than you realized/it is a challenge to release. & b) that your life is more manageable, rewarding, & confident without it (especially if you are a blackout drinker).
Lots of approaches here. Mix & match. It's quite an adventure!
You lost an important relationship. Because of behavior under the influence of a beverage. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that you should likely not allow that influence! And I say this as a person who struggled deeply (& still struggles) to accept this reality.
When we lose what we care about, we know. You know.
You've found an excellent community here. Read & read. Post & post.
If you're not sure that you are ready to choose abstinence from alcohol, I suggest trying it for a few months. This experiment will likely reveal that : a) you are more dependent on it than you realized/it is a challenge to release. & b) that your life is more manageable, rewarding, & confident without it (especially if you are a blackout drinker).
Lots of approaches here. Mix & match. It's quite an adventure!
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Welcome to the family. It's good that you want to stop drinking. There's lots of support here so take advantage of it.
It is dangerous to mix drinking with anti anxiety meds.
And the drinking will just make your anxiety worse.
I hope you can use the support here to get sober for good.
It's good that you want to stop drinking. There's lots of support here so take advantage of it. It is dangerous to mix drinking with anti anxiety meds.
And the drinking will just make your anxiety worse. I hope you can use the support here to get sober for good.
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I guess that's why I never thought I had a problem because I was sober all week and would blowout on the weekends.
I now realise that I do need help and I do need to change my life for the better if I don't want this to get any worse than it already is.
Thank you for your kind words
I now realise that I do need help and I do need to change my life for the better if I don't want this to get any worse than it already is.
Thank you for your kind words
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Hi and welcome AceAshtonowens
Like others have said you'll find a lot of support here and a lot of good ideas. Maybe raising the subject with your GP is a good start?
where do you stand on things like AA?
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Like others have said you'll find a lot of support here and a lot of good ideas. Maybe raising the subject with your GP is a good start?
where do you stand on things like AA?
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Thank you Dee74
I will start with my GP mad hopefully he can refer me to a specialist or local AA centre
I don't really have an opinion on AA if I'm honest. I haven't looked into too deeply but can imagine it is a good way to meet people in similar situations to me. I know how good it feels to openly talk about things rather than try to suppress the feelings
I will start with my GP mad hopefully he can refer me to a specialist or local AA centre
I don't really have an opinion on AA if I'm honest. I haven't looked into too deeply but can imagine it is a good way to meet people in similar situations to me. I know how good it feels to openly talk about things rather than try to suppress the feelings
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I'm sorry for the breakdown of your relationship. Similar happened to me and it sent me on a huge downward spiral, I couldn't cope at all and drank myself unconscious as soon as I woke up all day and all night.
I'm glad you are taking action before it gets worse. Be strong :-)
I'm glad you are taking action before it gets worse. Be strong :-)
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Hi Daisy1,
Sorry to hear you have gone through something so rough. I hope you have come out the other side happy and healthy.
Its going to take time to learn to accept and love myself again which is what im finding the hardest thing to do right now.
In saying that I know that being sober while I do it will only make it that much better in the long run.
Hope you are well
Sorry to hear you have gone through something so rough. I hope you have come out the other side happy and healthy.
Its going to take time to learn to accept and love myself again which is what im finding the hardest thing to do right now.
In saying that I know that being sober while I do it will only make it that much better in the long run.
Hope you are well
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Originally Posted by AceAshtonowens 
Hi Daisy1,
Sorry to hear you have gone through something so rough. I hope you have come out the other side happy and healthy.
Its going to take time to learn to accept and love myself again which is what im finding the hardest thing to do right now.
In saying that I know that being sober while I do it will only make it that much better in the long run.
Hope you are well
Sorry to hear you have gone through something so rough. I hope you have come out the other side happy and healthy.
Its going to take time to learn to accept and love myself again which is what im finding the hardest thing to do right now.
In saying that I know that being sober while I do it will only make it that much better in the long run.
Hope you are well
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