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Old 05-14-2016, 06:01 AM
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I've been struggling with wine addiction for 15 years. I've always woken up swearing to " never drink again" but by 7 pm all resolve dies.
I'm delighted to have found this site as all my previous attempts have been alone. I drink in secret as much as possible!
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Old 05-14-2016, 06:07 AM
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Welcome to SR slinua! Many of is drank alone, but there is a better way. Do some reading and feel free to ask questions, hope we can hell you have a successful day 1.
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Old 05-14-2016, 06:10 AM
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Welcome, slinua! This place has been a huge help over the years for relieving my feelings of inner loneliness; it's a true community.

Now, prepare yourself for an onslaught of welcomes and support and kind words; it'll only take a few minutes! That's how they roll here...
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Old 05-14-2016, 06:13 AM
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Welcome slinua!

I did the same thing, swearing I wouldn't drink the next day. I found SR and the support I needed to stop the madness.
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Old 05-14-2016, 06:57 AM
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Hi and welcome slinua,

The reason 7pm is a witching hour for you is because you are an addict.

Nothing more. You need booze to feel normal at this point.

No dr. Advice here...if u need one, see one.

But....

Stay clean for a month and the physical dependency will be gone.

Then the mental issues will become apparent. While not as painful to deal w, the mental issues last a long, long time...

Get clean. Change your life a bit. Stay clean.
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Old 05-14-2016, 10:02 AM
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Welcome! I am a 'secret' drinker as well. Ugh. There is nothing more lonely, isolating and depressing.
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Old 05-14-2016, 10:11 AM
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Welcome to SR!! Spend some time reading and posting, it really does help. You should also join the May class, everyone in that class made the commitment to stop drinking this month as well.

Wine was my downfall as well, and after many Day ones I have four and a half months sober. This site is a wonderful support, and if you spend some time reading you will have lots of ideas on other supports you may need to put in place.
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Old 05-14-2016, 11:38 AM
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Thank you

I would just like to thank all who welcomed me!
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Old 05-14-2016, 12:49 PM
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Welcome Slinua

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Old 05-14-2016, 01:01 PM
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Welcome! I was a wino too, until I finally wanted to be sober more than I wanted to drink. It's been over six years now and I've never felt better.
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Old 05-14-2016, 01:21 PM
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Welcome! SR has really been a Godsend for me, it is an amazing community of support and knowledge.

I think most of got to the point where we drank or used in secret. If we are by ourselves then no one has to "know" and then we "aren't accountable". I have learned that even if no one knew, I knew, and guess what I wasn't wasting and ruining anyone else's life, just my own so really it didn't make a difference if I used in secret, I still was destroying myself.

Coming out to my entire family- aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. (Mom and siblings already knew I was a heroin addict) really was a turning point for me. Once you get it out there and people know, then they are able to give the support that you need. It is amazing what support is out there as long as you allow people in.

Read around and keep posting, you can do this!
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Old 05-14-2016, 01:28 PM
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Welcome!

I was a secret drinker as well and I know it adds a level of shame and guilt to what is already there. I'm glad you found us.
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Old 05-14-2016, 03:37 PM
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Welcome! My normal was soon as I got home from work I fixed me a drink. I drank in secret as well. Felt so ashamed to have any one know how much I was drinking and that it was every day. I hated how it made me feel but wasn't able to stop till I wanted it more than I wanted to drink. I feel so much better now. U can do this!
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Old 05-14-2016, 03:40 PM
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I went on like that for years, Slinua. We understand exactly how you feel. Welcome to a great place for encouragement. Happy to have you.
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Old 05-14-2016, 04:19 PM
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I drank wine at home and often by myself. I used to resent interruptions to my wine drinking SR was a huge help in my early sobriety. I also had a few ideas for things I'd do, when the urge struck and had no wine in the house. Welcome!
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Old 05-14-2016, 05:25 PM
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Old 05-14-2016, 06:07 PM
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Me too!

I'm with you on this. Same MO exactly. Wake up swearing I'm done - resolve gone by dinner time - wine bottle empty by bed time. Not today. Today I really want to be stronger. Maybe together we can be stronger.
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Old 05-14-2016, 06:32 PM
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Welcome. You can get through your witching hours with us.
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