Romantising Alcohol
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl 
As one of the steps leading to relapse.
You know what it is if your engaged in it. Get your mind somewhere else.
You know what it is if your engaged in it. Get your mind somewhere else.
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Let's see ...
1. near-constant nausea
2. near-constant achy, fuzzy head
3. digestive tract "issues"
4. bloat, weight gain
5. checking Facebook to see if I wrote anything stupid
6. making excuses for not being among the living because I was home drinking
7. not getting routine tasks at home finished
8. red, splotchy skin
9. auto-pilot to the liquor stores to spend ridiculous amounts of money
10. absence of self-respect, confidence and awareness
It took me less than a minute to come up with that list. I could add much more but I think you get the point.
It stopped being romantic for people like us a long, long time ago.
1. near-constant nausea
2. near-constant achy, fuzzy head
3. digestive tract "issues"
4. bloat, weight gain
5. checking Facebook to see if I wrote anything stupid
6. making excuses for not being among the living because I was home drinking
7. not getting routine tasks at home finished
8. red, splotchy skin
9. auto-pilot to the liquor stores to spend ridiculous amounts of money
10. absence of self-respect, confidence and awareness
It took me less than a minute to come up with that list. I could add much more but I think you get the point.
It stopped being romantic for people like us a long, long time ago.
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Join Date: Nov 2015
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Originally Posted by Anna
Have you read "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp. This is her memoir about her love affair with wine. Her story is, I think, the ultimate romancing of alcohol.
If I'm romantising alcohol I'm just looking back with rose tinted spectacles on. It wasn't really like that, nor will it ever be.
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I did it just the other day, posted here and got plenty of good advice. Averted disaster.
I believe you are just having a "positive" thought regarding drinking. But it is an illusion, more often than not, nothing positive will come from it. Stay strong.
I believe you are just having a "positive" thought regarding drinking. But it is an illusion, more often than not, nothing positive will come from it. Stay strong.
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Romancing alcohol is the AV telling famous lies such as
Well the weather is nice - it stays nice with no alcohol
Just the one - one is too many a thousand is never enough
It enhances dinner - I cook a lot and I can tell you it certainly doesn't
I deserve it - who deserves to be wasted, out of it & no control whatsoever ?
I'm better now Im in control - Caving into a craving is 0% control
Its different this time, if I had a penny everytime ive seen this fail id be a millionaire
Basically romancing alcohol is drink on the mind = AV
Well the weather is nice - it stays nice with no alcohol
Just the one - one is too many a thousand is never enough
It enhances dinner - I cook a lot and I can tell you it certainly doesn't
I deserve it - who deserves to be wasted, out of it & no control whatsoever ?
I'm better now Im in control - Caving into a craving is 0% control
Its different this time, if I had a penny everytime ive seen this fail id be a millionaire
Basically romancing alcohol is drink on the mind = AV
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: North Yorkshire
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I'm doing it right now. Am in a hotel waiting for friends to arrive. I have been in the pool and the sauna and looking forward to dinner, but everyone is in the bar drinking. It seems so normal after the swim/ sauna but I can't do it. I have come up to the room for a coffee and am awaiting my friend and Goddaughter, but I do find this hard, sometimes I want to move to a culture where alcohol is not the forefront. Here in the UK it sometimes seems like the only pastime. Yours bitterly.
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Originally Posted by RachelNorth
I suppose I am saying that normal drinkers can have a romantic drink. I can't, that's why I am on this site and not in the bar.
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Originally Posted by blueberry2015
Would you say googling alcohol free guiness is romantising? If so.... Ive just done that.
Back in the late 1990's after being sober a few months I was cutting firewood and was thinking a beer would be great but said no. After a while I went to the store and bought what we call 0.5%, that was all the AV needed, I recall quite clearly my thinking, it costs the same so why not buy the real deal, I did which ended up in a two to three week binge. As a single parent to this day my daughter still holds it against me.
I personally would and will stay clear of anything and everything that taste's like booze, simply have to as I like life on this side of the grass and I am not sure that I have another recovery in me.
Andrew
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there are plenty of delicious drinks that don't mimic alcohol drinks. why strain your sobriety in this manner? I can see no good coming of it.
blueberry, 5 months is awesome and it will just get more and more awesome as your sober time builds.
blueberry, 5 months is awesome and it will just get more and more awesome as your sober time builds.
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Originally Posted by ALinNS
Depends on the person and the power of the AV at the time, IMHO
................... simply have to as I like life on this side of the grass and I am not sure that I have another recovery in me.
Andrew
................... simply have to as I like life on this side of the grass and I am not sure that I have another recovery in me.
Andrew
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Originally Posted by blueberry2015
Would you say googling alcohol free guiness is romantising? If so.... Ive just done that.
I think your AV is looking for 'outs'
what is it you're missing blueberry?
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