My AH Took His Dog Today
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My AH Took His Dog Today
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My move was supposed to me yesterday, but had to be rescheduled to next Tuesday, due to new rugs being put in my new place.
Last night, I got a call from the nursing home my ah mother is in. They couldn't get intouch with his sister, who's the first contact, so called our home phone looking for my ah. I told them he wasn't here, was there anything I could do. Of course they wouldn't tell me anything, but being a nurse, I asked them a few questions. From there answers? I knew she had either passed or was transported to the hospital. I gave them my ah cell phone number, which they didn't have.
I called my ah cousin, to see if she could could get in touch with the sister. I didn't want my ah mother to be alone if she was transported to the hospital, or if she passed my ah and his sister needed to know.
The cousin got intouch with the sister. She found out the mom was being transported to the hospital. No other details.
The cousin called me this am, and told me the mom was in the hospital but stable. She 91 on Friday, so how stable is she really. Anyways, this cousin told me the sister called her a traitor, she shouldn't be taking to me, and stated she didn't want get anywhere near her brother. I did what I thought was right, didn't want my his mom alone in the hospital. Not sister is making a big thing that the nursing home spoke to me. They actually didn't, I just know the drill, being a nurse for 30 yrs.
My ah came to our house today, with a police escort. Picked up his bills and mail, and took his mom's dog. He was on his best behavior. I found the dogs collar, and made a package of food for the dog.
I asked how his mom was, he said stable. I told him, I hope you didn't mind I gave the nursing home your cell. My ah said no, and thank you.
He was really surprised with all the boxes everywhere. What does he expected, I'm moving.
His behavior today brought back some good memories, and made me very sad.
I know though, he was with the police, probably not drinking yet, and nothing has changed.
Thank you for letting me vent. I'm still processing all this.
My move was supposed to me yesterday, but had to be rescheduled to next Tuesday, due to new rugs being put in my new place.
Last night, I got a call from the nursing home my ah mother is in. They couldn't get intouch with his sister, who's the first contact, so called our home phone looking for my ah. I told them he wasn't here, was there anything I could do. Of course they wouldn't tell me anything, but being a nurse, I asked them a few questions. From there answers? I knew she had either passed or was transported to the hospital. I gave them my ah cell phone number, which they didn't have.
I called my ah cousin, to see if she could could get in touch with the sister. I didn't want my ah mother to be alone if she was transported to the hospital, or if she passed my ah and his sister needed to know.
The cousin got intouch with the sister. She found out the mom was being transported to the hospital. No other details.
The cousin called me this am, and told me the mom was in the hospital but stable. She 91 on Friday, so how stable is she really. Anyways, this cousin told me the sister called her a traitor, she shouldn't be taking to me, and stated she didn't want get anywhere near her brother. I did what I thought was right, didn't want my his mom alone in the hospital. Not sister is making a big thing that the nursing home spoke to me. They actually didn't, I just know the drill, being a nurse for 30 yrs.
My ah came to our house today, with a police escort. Picked up his bills and mail, and took his mom's dog. He was on his best behavior. I found the dogs collar, and made a package of food for the dog.
I asked how his mom was, he said stable. I told him, I hope you didn't mind I gave the nursing home your cell. My ah said no, and thank you.
He was really surprised with all the boxes everywhere. What does he expected, I'm moving.
His behavior today brought back some good memories, and made me very sad.
I know though, he was with the police, probably not drinking yet, and nothing has changed.
Thank you for letting me vent. I'm still processing all this.
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You did the right thing, so screw whatever his sister was saying.
Don't worry about the sister vs. the nursing home. Not your problem.
Glad he got the dog, and that you'll be out of there soon.
Don't worry about the sister vs. the nursing home. Not your problem.
Glad he got the dog, and that you'll be out of there soon.
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Your AHs sister sounds just like my ex sister in law-totally off her rocker jealous, unhappy and immature-seriously. YOU did the right thing-it's her that us acting like a grade school bully and clown. Forget her. Move on with your life-sounds like a lovely sick bunch you are divorcing-smile...you got away. 
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Incidentally, you might tell this cousin that you really don't care to hear what his sister thinks of you. I always sort of question the motives of people who are so quick to report stuff back to us for which the only purpose seems to be stirring up drama.
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