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Hi, I am a 55 year old women, full time executive, who has been an alcoholic for 10 years. I had some tragedy in my life that led me to numb myself in alcohol and it is time to put that aside, stop feeling sorry for myself and face my addiction.
I have tried a few AA meetings and found them very beneficial, and will now start to go on a regular basis, which is 2 times a week and once on a weekend. My job just will not allow anymore then that....in addition going to a 30 day rehab is out of the question.
I am looking for support and ANY advise you can give me for the first few days which I know will be very very difficult.
Anyway, I have made up my mind that I am over with this...Or I will die for sure.
PS I am already a cancer survivor...and yet killing myself with Vodka
I have tried a few AA meetings and found them very beneficial, and will now start to go on a regular basis, which is 2 times a week and once on a weekend. My job just will not allow anymore then that....in addition going to a 30 day rehab is out of the question.
I am looking for support and ANY advise you can give me for the first few days which I know will be very very difficult.
Anyway, I have made up my mind that I am over with this...Or I will die for sure.
PS I am already a cancer survivor...and yet killing myself with Vodka
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 1,355
Congrats on your decision to become sober. It is so worth it. No more hangovers. No more night sweats. No more headaches from alcohol. No more risking a DUI. The list goes on and on. You will be amazed of the benefits.
Congrats also on being a cancer survivor. Fear of cancer is a big reason I decided to stop drinking and quit smoking in my early 30s. I don't think I could have made two better decisions within a couple of months of each other.
Congrats also on being a cancer survivor. Fear of cancer is a big reason I decided to stop drinking and quit smoking in my early 30s. I don't think I could have made two better decisions within a couple of months of each other.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: WA
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Welcome to SR 
you will find a lot of support here.
Going to AA for f2f support is a great idea. I would also suggest that you check in with your doctor just to be on the safe side and s/he might give you some meds to make the detox easier.
Make sure you stay well hydrated, I always recommend people drink sports drinks or Gatorade while detoxing but there are some on SR who swears by Pedialyte (the baby formula) because it balances your electrolytes.
I would recommend also that you join the class of February so you can network with your peers who quit at the same time and are going through fairly similar things
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com (Class of February 2016 Support Thread Part 2)
I would also encourage you to join us at the 24 hours recovery connections where we commit not to drink or drug for the day. It is a fun supportive thread and way to hold ourselves accountable
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com (24-hour Recovery Connections Part 106)
I am glad you joined us. You can do it
you will find a lot of support here.Going to AA for f2f support is a great idea. I would also suggest that you check in with your doctor just to be on the safe side and s/he might give you some meds to make the detox easier.
Make sure you stay well hydrated, I always recommend people drink sports drinks or Gatorade while detoxing but there are some on SR who swears by Pedialyte (the baby formula) because it balances your electrolytes.
I would recommend also that you join the class of February so you can network with your peers who quit at the same time and are going through fairly similar things
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com (Class of February 2016 Support Thread Part 2)
I would also encourage you to join us at the 24 hours recovery connections where we commit not to drink or drug for the day. It is a fun supportive thread and way to hold ourselves accountable
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com (24-hour Recovery Connections Part 106)
I am glad you joined us. You can do it
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: Indiana
Posts: 1,472
Welcome to SR! I think you will find this site to be a wonderful tool in your recovery. I would suggest making a plan, posting in the 24 hour recovery group and joining the Class of February 2016. The first few days to a week will be difficult but you can do it with determination and putting all the tools you have available to you to work. You can do this!
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 6,902
Hi - welcome to SR, and to the fellowship from another AAer
As well as AA meetings, I try to get on here every day to keep my head in the zone.
Avoid the HALT triggers as much as possible (Hunger; Anger; Loneliness; Tired). If I got bad cravings, usually one or a few of those were rattling me, and dealing with those things helped.
I find that using the AA speaker recording s between meetings is very helpful.
This website is great for those... 5500+ AA Speakers & Tapes - Organized & Mobile-Friendly! (I have a hellish commute so download them and listen to them on a cheap little MP3 player)
I like to meet up with some of my AA friends for coffee or a stroll round the shops at the weekend sometimes - it's worth taking those telephone numbers when they're offered to you as it's nice to build up some sober friendships
You know those things you never tried because you were too busy drinking or hungover? Well, now's when you can start looking into giving them a go. So far in 2016 I've joined a local choir, and also started going to a Creative Writing group. Nothing ground-breaking, but I'm really enjoying both of these things.
I make sure that I arrange some things for Saturday nights at least twice a month - I love the theatre but it's generally too expensive for my budget, so I've been making more effort to go to amateur / local productions that are cheaper.
Wishing you well on your journey through sobriety to recovery
As well as AA meetings, I try to get on here every day to keep my head in the zone.
Avoid the HALT triggers as much as possible (Hunger; Anger; Loneliness; Tired). If I got bad cravings, usually one or a few of those were rattling me, and dealing with those things helped.
I find that using the AA speaker recording s between meetings is very helpful.
This website is great for those... 5500+ AA Speakers & Tapes - Organized & Mobile-Friendly! (I have a hellish commute so download them and listen to them on a cheap little MP3 player)
I like to meet up with some of my AA friends for coffee or a stroll round the shops at the weekend sometimes - it's worth taking those telephone numbers when they're offered to you as it's nice to build up some sober friendships
You know those things you never tried because you were too busy drinking or hungover? Well, now's when you can start looking into giving them a go. So far in 2016 I've joined a local choir, and also started going to a Creative Writing group. Nothing ground-breaking, but I'm really enjoying both of these things.
I make sure that I arrange some things for Saturday nights at least twice a month - I love the theatre but it's generally too expensive for my budget, so I've been making more effort to go to amateur / local productions that are cheaper.
Wishing you well on your journey through sobriety to recovery
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Boston, MA
Posts: 1,601
Welcome! I highly suggest getting a sponsor. Look for a sober woman you respect who has what you want!
My sponsor is my lifeline and I am so grateful for her!
Other things that helped me:
Little treats - new slippers, a netflix subscription, fancy chocolates
Having a routine and committed AA meetings
Exercise
Sharing with others about what I was going through
My sponsor is my lifeline and I am so grateful for her!
Other things that helped me:
Little treats - new slippers, a netflix subscription, fancy chocolates
Having a routine and committed AA meetings
Exercise
Sharing with others about what I was going through
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Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Australia
Posts: 1,499
Welcome Queenslady!
Some thoughts:
- I would second the advice about seeing a doctor. I did that on my Day 1 and was completely honest with her. She was not judgmental at all and very supportive. It allowed me to assess accurately where I was health-wise so I could start rebuilding my health with facts not fears.
- I also asked my doctor to refer me to a therapist which I recommend if you can find one you can work with. Those two things made my commitment to recovery a "serious" thing, if you know what I mean.
- I really enjoy the class thread here - the group support is fantastic. It keeps me honest too.
- Reach out for help here whenever you feel you need it.
Lovely to see you here and please stay on SR - it will help you on your recovery journey.
Some thoughts:
- I would second the advice about seeing a doctor. I did that on my Day 1 and was completely honest with her. She was not judgmental at all and very supportive. It allowed me to assess accurately where I was health-wise so I could start rebuilding my health with facts not fears.
- I also asked my doctor to refer me to a therapist which I recommend if you can find one you can work with. Those two things made my commitment to recovery a "serious" thing, if you know what I mean.
- I really enjoy the class thread here - the group support is fantastic. It keeps me honest too.
- Reach out for help here whenever you feel you need it.
Lovely to see you here and please stay on SR - it will help you on your recovery journey.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Good to meet you, Queenslady! You sound determined & ready to do this.
It helps so much to talk things over with those who understand. It really made all the difference for me. Welcome.
It helps so much to talk things over with those who understand. It really made all the difference for me. Welcome.
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Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 14,937
Welcome.
Vodka became my poison too. I'm about your age, have a high profile job and a 30 day inpatient rehab was just not in the cards. What worked for me was finally giving up and trying AA along with spending a lot of time on this website. Now I'm nearing the 6 year mark. You can do it too!
Vodka became my poison too. I'm about your age, have a high profile job and a 30 day inpatient rehab was just not in the cards. What worked for me was finally giving up and trying AA along with spending a lot of time on this website. Now I'm nearing the 6 year mark. You can do it too!
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