Quitting is easy, I've done it a hundred times....
Trudgin
Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 6,348
Honesty wasn't necessarily my problem - I was pretty willing to tell ya I had been drinking. When surrounded, attack........
As the OP perfectly repeats the alcoholic mantra, quitting is the easy part - staying stopped is indeed the challenge.
Today I spoke with a friend who worked at a large hospital as an addictionologist for some years. He related the gruesome nature of the alcoholic death that comes in many forms. Specifically he mentioned those who die from Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome / wet brain and it's meaning. This was a stark reminder to me of what I don't want it to be like...........
https://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/...cle/000771.htm
Hope 2016 for those dancing in the shadows of sobriety that they will get serious and step into the true light of recovery.
peace
As the OP perfectly repeats the alcoholic mantra, quitting is the easy part - staying stopped is indeed the challenge.
Today I spoke with a friend who worked at a large hospital as an addictionologist for some years. He related the gruesome nature of the alcoholic death that comes in many forms. Specifically he mentioned those who die from Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome / wet brain and it's meaning. This was a stark reminder to me of what I don't want it to be like...........
https://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/...cle/000771.htm
Hope 2016 for those dancing in the shadows of sobriety that they will get serious and step into the true light of recovery.
peace
Sober AF Since 3/20/16
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: WI - Where alcohol abuse is a sacrement
Posts: 157
Yeah...plan....hmmmmm...? ;-)
Well, I need to go back to what worked for me in the past, which is a focus on health and fitness. Lose the 50# I've gained and get back into running, biking and skiing competition again. That kept me sober for over a year.
Obviously, I'll need to take it a step further this time. Probably find meetings to attend in a way where my wife won't find out. (Long story) Maybe even get my arse to church, again, in a way my wife won't find out. (Longer story)
Dumping the people who tell me they like me better drunk should probably be on that plan also...
Peace!
Well, I need to go back to what worked for me in the past, which is a focus on health and fitness. Lose the 50# I've gained and get back into running, biking and skiing competition again. That kept me sober for over a year.
Obviously, I'll need to take it a step further this time. Probably find meetings to attend in a way where my wife won't find out. (Long story) Maybe even get my arse to church, again, in a way my wife won't find out. (Longer story)
Dumping the people who tell me they like me better drunk should probably be on that plan also...
Peace!
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,444
Welcome 
All that is good stuff Fitcher - but it's more a lifestyle plan than a recovery one.
A good recovery plan will include all that lifestyle stuff but I think you also need to get to the nuts and bolts of how are you going to stay sober.
How will you deal wIth cravings?
what changes will you make to your life?
What kind of support do you need?
how will you use it?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
make this time different
D
All that is good stuff Fitcher - but it's more a lifestyle plan than a recovery one.
A good recovery plan will include all that lifestyle stuff but I think you also need to get to the nuts and bolts of how are you going to stay sober.
How will you deal wIth cravings?
what changes will you make to your life?
What kind of support do you need?
how will you use it?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ery-plans.html
make this time different
D
Member
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 13,044
Fitcher, I am with you on the losing weight and getting back into a healthy lifestyle. It goes on so much easier than it comes off. I am on day six (almost seven) and have been good with exercise, although I am definitely out of shape!! I have hooked my Fitbit to my weight watchers app and I am keeping myself accountable. The good news is I started Weight Watchers while drinking, so I found myself with lots of extra points each day!
Cheers to a happy and healthy 2016!!!
Cheers to a happy and healthy 2016!!!
Member
Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Dallas Texas
Posts: 579
The Title of your post made me grin. Ain't it the truth!
A very wise person once said "Do, or do not, there is no try. " Perhaps you may have heard of him. His name was Yoda, a famous Jedi Master.
Fitcher, DO
May the Force be with you One Day at a Time.
A very wise person once said "Do, or do not, there is no try. " Perhaps you may have heard of him. His name was Yoda, a famous Jedi Master.
Fitcher, DO
May the Force be with you One Day at a Time.
Sober AF Since 3/20/16
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: WI - Where alcohol abuse is a sacrement
Posts: 157
No doubt chrcharlston, Yoda is never wrong!
Delilah, there are a couple of health and fitness sections on these forums that I plan to hang around. Feel free to join me to compare war stories!
Delilah, there are a couple of health and fitness sections on these forums that I plan to hang around. Feel free to join me to compare war stories!
Member
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Midwest
Posts: 9,029
Welcome to the forum. I'm with Dee. The lifestyle changes are great to incorporate into sober living but what else? The reason I'm asking is because a long while back, when I first came on SR, someone else posted that they were running to stay sober. That was their only plan. They injured themself and couldn't run. That person relapsed.
Plan for all contingencies. Well done on day 5.
Plan for all contingencies. Well done on day 5.
Member
Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: MN
Posts: 8,704
Fitcher, I was in the same boat for about three and half years. Drink like an idiot for a couple days on the weekend, quit cold turkey all week, do it again the next weekend. I found it to be harder on the body than just drinking a few every night. Neither one was good. I wish you the very best. Many have been in the same boat and succeeded in sobriety.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Making a list on paper of all the reasons
why we drank. What cause us to pick up
a drink when we said no more.
Was it just to have fun and party
with friends and family. Special
occasions like weddings, get togethers,
bbq's, pool hall, clubs, dinners, vacations,
etc, where alcohol was always there.
Did we drink because someone pizzed
us off. Said something we didn't agree
with. Looked at us in a strange way. Held
onto resentments from our childhood,
school, work, family.
Did we drink out of bordom. Because
we have an addiction to a controlled
poisonous substance and have no idea
how to put the plug in the jug permanently.
Sooooo many reasons and unless we
address each reason and find how to
deal with each and everyone of them
in a healthier sober way to not repeat
same old patterns then we will continue
to remain sick.
Addiction is a treatable disease, illness
that plagues sooooo many. Treatable
with a program of recovery to achieve
health, happiness and honesty.
why we drank. What cause us to pick up
a drink when we said no more.
Was it just to have fun and party
with friends and family. Special
occasions like weddings, get togethers,
bbq's, pool hall, clubs, dinners, vacations,
etc, where alcohol was always there.
Did we drink because someone pizzed
us off. Said something we didn't agree
with. Looked at us in a strange way. Held
onto resentments from our childhood,
school, work, family.
Did we drink out of bordom. Because
we have an addiction to a controlled
poisonous substance and have no idea
how to put the plug in the jug permanently.
Sooooo many reasons and unless we
address each reason and find how to
deal with each and everyone of them
in a healthier sober way to not repeat
same old patterns then we will continue
to remain sick.
Addiction is a treatable disease, illness
that plagues sooooo many. Treatable
with a program of recovery to achieve
health, happiness and honesty.
Guest
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Canada
Posts: 4,580
Oh how I relate Fitch...oh how I relate....
It's the stick-it-to-it-ness that seems to go screaming down the road with its hair on fire for me too. I've put together a few "sober season's" (which I've recently noted go hand in with a lot more money in the bank)....but ya, what does it take hey? How does one win the sober lotto? I don't think there is any one guaranteed answer. All I know is each try..well, could be the one hey?
This morning I heard on a newscast bout a woman being sentenced after wiping out a mom and her 3 kids while driving drunk one Sunday morning. The news bit included a very sorrowful surviving husband talking about the lives of his children...what they "could" have been. So very sad. It sent shivers up my spine. He noted that woman will have to spend the rest of her days thinking about what she has done..the lives she took. And I know she will...I feel terrible for all involved...I suppose I empathasize with the "murderer" most of all... I know there were many occasions where I was behind a wheel and only there by the grace of God did I not hurt anyone. Who cares about myself..... but geez, the lives of others. Anytime I have driven drunk I never intended to. I'm ashamed at the number of times I have done it. So very ashamed.
Perhaps that's the fear I have to hang onto. Hurting myself has never been a deterrent... others? Hell yeah.
It's the stick-it-to-it-ness that seems to go screaming down the road with its hair on fire for me too. I've put together a few "sober season's" (which I've recently noted go hand in with a lot more money in the bank)....but ya, what does it take hey? How does one win the sober lotto? I don't think there is any one guaranteed answer. All I know is each try..well, could be the one hey?
This morning I heard on a newscast bout a woman being sentenced after wiping out a mom and her 3 kids while driving drunk one Sunday morning. The news bit included a very sorrowful surviving husband talking about the lives of his children...what they "could" have been. So very sad. It sent shivers up my spine. He noted that woman will have to spend the rest of her days thinking about what she has done..the lives she took. And I know she will...I feel terrible for all involved...I suppose I empathasize with the "murderer" most of all... I know there were many occasions where I was behind a wheel and only there by the grace of God did I not hurt anyone. Who cares about myself..... but geez, the lives of others. Anytime I have driven drunk I never intended to. I'm ashamed at the number of times I have done it. So very ashamed.
Perhaps that's the fear I have to hang onto. Hurting myself has never been a deterrent... others? Hell yeah.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,569
Good to meet you, Fitch!
I tried many times, but the last time really was the last time. I was drinking all day when I came here. I have almost 8 yrs. Never thought I'd live without it, but here I am - not one bit tempted & not feeling deprived. There's no doubt you can make it stick this time.
I tried many times, but the last time really was the last time. I was drinking all day when I came here. I have almost 8 yrs. Never thought I'd live without it, but here I am - not one bit tempted & not feeling deprived. There's no doubt you can make it stick this time.
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