I need a friend or two..
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Join Date: Nov 2015
Location: Edinburgh
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I need a friend or two..
Hi. I am new to this site. I'm struggling at the moment and don't really know where to turn. I'm ashamed of my drinking, and wish with all my heart I could stop. I wake and promise myself the usual, but can't seem to make it happen....thinking about not drinking is like an obsession, until I think that I might just have one.... Why am I so weak
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: LBC, CA
Posts: 203
I agree with FreeOwl, it's tough to resist the addiction we created for our self.
When I am out and about I have with no desire or intention of drinking.. then bam drink down my throat. I have a few days in me sober. I am working on stopping also and know what you are going through. Let's do our best.
When I am out and about I have with no desire or intention of drinking.. then bam drink down my throat. I have a few days in me sober. I am working on stopping also and know what you are going through. Let's do our best.
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 2,872
Hello and welcome to the site.
I wasn't weak, I was addicted. Despite my best intensions, complete with solemn vows and swearing it would never happen again, I drank.
I lived like that for twenty year until I just gave up trying and became a full-blown daily drinking alcoholic.
This went on for another five years. Still I drank, puking up the first one of the day and reaching a point where I could no longer drink, and no longer stay sober. I wouldn't wish this nightmare of existence on anyone.
I had hit bottom. It took divine intervention for me to quit. Even with going to AA I still drank until I had a moment of clarity from what I had heard at those meetings, from people who drank like me but were successfully abstaining.
I didn't give up trying. I was a low bottom drunk with a seeming death wish. Die by the bottle. I was not someone you would want to know. Nobody did. I was alone and drunk.
But I went again to those meetings. Here were people unlike me in personalities, but we shared the same bond. Maybe I could do it.
If I don't drink today, tomorrow I will have four years eleven months sober.
Even those of us who have hid the skids can recover. I just never stopped trying. I hope you can quit before you hit the lows I did.
Pray. Try AA, or another recovery program. Do what you have to as if your life depends on it, and it just may. Try. Try again. Don't give up, we're all here for you.
I wasn't weak, I was addicted. Despite my best intensions, complete with solemn vows and swearing it would never happen again, I drank.
I lived like that for twenty year until I just gave up trying and became a full-blown daily drinking alcoholic.
This went on for another five years. Still I drank, puking up the first one of the day and reaching a point where I could no longer drink, and no longer stay sober. I wouldn't wish this nightmare of existence on anyone.
I had hit bottom. It took divine intervention for me to quit. Even with going to AA I still drank until I had a moment of clarity from what I had heard at those meetings, from people who drank like me but were successfully abstaining.
I didn't give up trying. I was a low bottom drunk with a seeming death wish. Die by the bottle. I was not someone you would want to know. Nobody did. I was alone and drunk.
But I went again to those meetings. Here were people unlike me in personalities, but we shared the same bond. Maybe I could do it.
If I don't drink today, tomorrow I will have four years eleven months sober.
Even those of us who have hid the skids can recover. I just never stopped trying. I hope you can quit before you hit the lows I did.
Pray. Try AA, or another recovery program. Do what you have to as if your life depends on it, and it just may. Try. Try again. Don't give up, we're all here for you.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Castle Pines, CO
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Weak? You are the exact opposite. You are, by definition both strong "able to withstand great force or pressure," and brave "ready to face and endure danger or pain; showing courage." We are all here for you if you need a friend 24/7/365. Please let us know if there is anything we can do.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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Hi and welcome youcangetthere 
like others have said, you're not weak, just addicted - there is a difference
Coming here really helped me to stay focused on being sober - I know we can help you too
D
like others have said, you're not weak, just addicted - there is a difference
Coming here really helped me to stay focused on being sober - I know we can help you too
D
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Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: UK, South Coast
Posts: 605
Ur here admitting u have an issue with booze, so thats a very strong action!!!! Weak.....NO! Ive been sober for a short amount of time, just over 5 wks & the acceptance of not ever having a drink is sinking in & doesn't seem as depressing as it first was!!
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: British
Posts: 56
It would be weak to carry on drinking but it takes guts and strength to not drink. You can be that person, the real you by just being yourself with no chemicals that alter your personality and feel good about it. Sometimes I want a drink, I crave a drink but I don't really know what for? If that makes sense, I don't want to be an emotional train wreck that I am when drunk. Chin up, you can do it :-)
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Join Date: Dec 2014
Location: Texas
Posts: 7,065
Welcome youcan!
You're in good company here. This community helped me quit drinking and I no longer have that awful obsession. We're here for you and hope you'll stick around and keep,posting!
You're in good company here. This community helped me quit drinking and I no longer have that awful obsession. We're here for you and hope you'll stick around and keep,posting!
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Join Date: Jul 2014
Posts: 6,348
Alcoholism isn't a moral failure or just a matter of being weak willed. There is a way out and release from shame, guilt and remorse. The solution(s) require more than wishing, though. It requires action and willingness, open mindedness and honesty.
Many here have found a way, you can too!!
Welcome friend, glad you're here
Many here have found a way, you can too!!
Welcome friend, glad you're here
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