JustAnotherDay

My ABF that I am trying to get out of my life, we live together, is on the war path because many months ago I had bought us Braves & Yankees tickets and now since he has been a boyfriend from hell, I decided to take a friend instead.

He's trying to guilt trip me saying how important he thought it was and how much he had looked forward to going. I feel bad!!!! But I know he'd get drunk or act a fool and ruin my good time. And since I NEVER leave the house anymore this last year, I really just wanted a night to forget all the drama and worry about myself. I just can't get passed feeling like a horrible person. I know how much he's wanted to go ( we are big baseball fans and in the NL so we never the Yankees because we only play them every 6793 years).

Ugh. I hate having feelings!!! It just makes me put myself last. And I want to be important too!!!!!

AnvilheadII

it's a BASEBALL game and it's TELEVISED. you aren't hacking off one of his limbs and leaving him bleeding.

JustAnotherDay

Hahaha I know it's just baseball. But it's the whole him making me feel like I'm doing him some disservice that makes me feel so awful.

Even if he has been a raging drunk for the last few months and I have had to threaten him with eviction notices lol.

It's comical but it damn sure ain't funny. I just gotta laugh to not give up.

Pia

I say Put yourself FIRST and let his words roll off your back. You have denied your self long enough.

emilynghiem

Can you do a gofundme fundraiser and buy another ticket?
Actually you just gave me an idea for funny spoof site.

What we need is a "goFU[nd]yourself" fundraiser site and raise money for tickets to send people to Tahiti, Mars or the Moon. One way trip. THAT would raise millions of dollars overnight, ya think?

Hope that makes you smile.

if you can wheedle another ticket from somewhere else, you don't have to fight over the ones you have.

is there anything you want from him that you could barter for?
if you pick something that is so "no go" he won't do it, he will back off.
Gladly, if you pick something that absolutely isn't worth it to him.

At the very least, if he can pay half of the cost of all three tickets, then tell him you'd be glad to share and invite him, too, but no drinking and getting wild where you would have to report him and get him escorted out. Lay out the rules and what you expect, in writing, where you both sign it, and if he thinks it's not worth the trouble he'll back off. Make it as inconvenient as possible. If you are paying for the tickets then it's your party and you can invite who you want. If he wants to pay to have half a say in the rules, then he needs to cough up the money for a third ticket. He'll probably back off and find another way to go that doesn't require agreeing to behave in public.

maia1234

I am sure if he had the ticket and you guys were fighting, he wouldn't think twice about taking someone "more" fun to the game. Don't think twice about it, go and have fun with who you want to. They always take the fun out of everything we do by getting drunk and ruining it for everyone, as it is always about them!!!

GO Yankees!!!

JustAnotherDay

Hahaha yall crack me up.

And yes, every single thing I've ever planned (because we know he can't be bothered to make plans or even show up most times) it gets ruined by his love for alcohol.

I just can't seem to remember I'm important too and I need peace and every once in a blue moon - a good day.

JustAnotherDay

I love your idea of a GoFu$$Yourself fund. I wonder if Soberrecovery.com could start that up lol