The Language of Letting Go, April 26
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The Language of Letting Go, April 26
April 26
You are reading from the book "The Language of Letting Go."
Negativity
Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent-up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns.
Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if we're struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. We do not have to go. Without judgment, we can decide it's okay to walk away, okay to protect ourselves.
We cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
Today, Higher Power, help me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity, even around those I love. Help me set boundaries. Help me know it's okay to take care of myself.
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You are reading from the book "The Language of Letting Go."
Negativity
Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent-up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns.
Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if we're struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. We do not have to go. Without judgment, we can decide it's okay to walk away, okay to protect ourselves.
We cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
Today, Higher Power, help me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity, even around those I love. Help me set boundaries. Help me know it's okay to take care of myself.
©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
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Thanks for posting this.
Today I find it easier to set boundaries but I find myself getting angry that I have to put them place at all. There are people in my life that I have had to place boundaries on to protect myself from their negativity, manipulation and emotional abuse.
I know that creating the boundary is the best thing for me. I don't want them in my life or I want very littler interaction with them. It does not matter how far I seem to push them away they keep banging on the door wanting to get in my life or remain in it either by actual contact or my mind takes me there.
It can feel exhausting at times and my anger and pain of the past keeps haunting me.
I guess this is just part of the journey, it is not always fun and games but I am starting to feel the strain.
Today I find it easier to set boundaries but I find myself getting angry that I have to put them place at all. There are people in my life that I have had to place boundaries on to protect myself from their negativity, manipulation and emotional abuse.
I know that creating the boundary is the best thing for me. I don't want them in my life or I want very littler interaction with them. It does not matter how far I seem to push them away they keep banging on the door wanting to get in my life or remain in it either by actual contact or my mind takes me there.
It can feel exhausting at times and my anger and pain of the past keeps haunting me.
I guess this is just part of the journey, it is not always fun and games but I am starting to feel the strain.
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I have been setting boundaries with negative people before I even knew what a boundary was!
They suck the life out of you.
My AH can be a negative nellly, especially when he is actively drinking. When he realized this was impacting our relationship and our oldest daughters decision making only then did he decide to change that.
Most people I know have been negative at some point in their lives.
I am glad that I have changed my way of thinking.
Thanks for this post!
They suck the life out of you.
My AH can be a negative nellly, especially when he is actively drinking. When he realized this was impacting our relationship and our oldest daughters decision making only then did he decide to change that.
Most people I know have been negative at some point in their lives.
I am glad that I have changed my way of thinking.
Thanks for this post!
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HP, I needed that so much this weekend. My AH's father made a surprise trip out to visit us and our little guy. He and my AH together are bottomless cesspools of negativity. Having them BOTH around for the weekend was exhausting. My little guy absolutely picked up on it, too. His behavior was pretty rotten. My lesson? I cannot control anybody else's attitudes, but I can model positivity and gratitude for my children.
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