Jillian2563

Y husband is a meth addict. I'm an alcoholic trying to get sober. Thing is, he drives me insane when he's using. Constantly accusing me of keeping secrets and cheating. Leaving recorders around the house, the spending hours listening to them. Hiding his phone, deleting messages, lying about going to the store. He basically drives me to drink. I don't know how to deal with him. I'm at the point where I feel I just need to divorce him. I can't even post here without him questioning me.

Mountainmanbob

Sounds like you need to get away
some time to think in another place
MM

Ann

Jullian, I hear your frustration and send hugs. The thing is, you can't do anything about his addiction and how he behaves, only he can do that when he is ready and it doesn't sound like he is ready yet.

What you can do is take very good care of yourself, work on your own sobriety and know that he can't take that away from you, it's yours to keep.

Can you visit family or go to a saner place to live for a while, to work on your own health and decide if you want to continue a relationship that includes addiction.

I hope you find your peace soon.

maia1234

Why not try hitting an aa meeting, or even try an alanon meeting. You need to learn how to detach from him and take care of your self. try and work a healthy program for yourself. Don't use him as an excuse to drink.

anyone can find an excuse to drink. Start today. Go to new recovery and post about you trying to get sober. The men and women are so much support. Take your life back!!! You can do this for you!!!! No one else. Today is day number 1.

AnvilheadII

no one should have to be around someone high on meth. not only are they insane, they are volatile and dangerous as well.

Jillian2563

Wow Ann and Maia. Thanks for the encouragement and support.

Today IS my day 1. My husband is wanting me to go with him to a CM Meeting with him tonight. Maybe he's ready, but maybe not.

maia1234

Good for you J- Do it for you not for anyone else. Hit all the forums on SR. They are so helpful. You can be the person you want to be!!!

Let us know how you are doing... Day 2, Day 3....

Good luck girl friend!!!

zoso77

Hey...

I'm sorry you're having to go through this.

Have you considered rehab yet?

Jillian2563

Yes zoso. I am starting on my own.

zoso77

Here's something for you to consider.

It may be advantageous for you to detox while inpatient somewhere. This has the additional benefit of getting away from him.

The difference between you and him at the moment is you're aware that your current path is untenable. Detoxing is not going to be pleasant for you when you arrive at the point you're ready to. That said, that seems preferable to having to deal with him while you're trying to dry out.

I encourage you to, if you haven't already, check out the alcoholism forum and draw on the strength and experience of that membership.

Keep us posted.

serenityfreedom

How about getting away from him. You can't be around a Meth Head and get sober. Leave him.

serenityfreedom

Jillian, I am so sorry if my post seemed rude. You are on day 1? Be good to yourself.