Tonight was a real struggle.
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Tonight was a real struggle.
I went out for dinner with people from my dance class then onto the bar where we have classes. (They have a dance night every Friday where people of all levels get together to practice.) I was on the verge of ordering a beer all night but managed to stick to the diet coke. I couldn't pluck up the courage to dance sober and was actually queueing at the bar to order a gin and tonic before i put my coat on and walked out just in time. I've made it home sober thank god but i came so close. It's amazing how quickly we become tempted. I'm very worried for tomorrow as i have 2 dinner parties to attend (lunch time is actually being held in my flat by my flatmate so i can't get out of that) but i'm thinking of skipping the nighttime one to avoid temptation. My flat mate has told me that she has bought "lots of good wine" and i'm terrified that i'm going to cave. I've bought myself lots of fruit juices to try to help me resist.
It's day 19 for me and i have noticed that a lot of people seem to struggle around the day 20 odd mark. It's happened to me before where i do so well that i convince myself that i could just have a couple of wines and be 'sensible' but i know that it's just not a possibility for me. Why is this so difficult at times? x
It's day 19 for me and i have noticed that a lot of people seem to struggle around the day 20 odd mark. It's happened to me before where i do so well that i convince myself that i could just have a couple of wines and be 'sensible' but i know that it's just not a possibility for me. Why is this so difficult at times? x
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You're doing amazing. I'm a little concerned about all the wine in your flat, though. That is a pretty intense temptation, as home is supposed to be a "safe" space where we can remove all alcohol and make this journey one iota easier... Don't listen to your addiction voice telling you that one glass of wine is ok, or that you've come "this far" and deserve a reward. Just like I've heard others say on this site - roll the tape forward, to how you'll feel the morning after, the days after, and when those cravings are back in full force. You can do this! You did amazing tonight and you can do amazing tomorrow, as well as the day after. We are all here for you and will support you every step of the way. Even if you need to come post every five minutes while you're at the dinner parties - we are all here!!! xo be strong, you can do this!
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Well done that took a lot of willpower but you did it. Maybe write a note to yourself in the morning? Write down how glad you are you didn't give in and how proud of yourself you feel that you succeeded. If you get tempted keep reading your letter to yourself. Just an idea. You did good though xx
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That seems like a good idea. I am so glad that i didn't have a beer or gin tonic but having wine in my flat and watching everyone drink it with lunch is going to be a nightmare so i think writing myself a note will be really helpful... I'm hoping that i will wake up tomorrow fresh and be inspired not to drink as i feel so great lol. x
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At 20 days I was like an hippo balancing on a footstool ready to fall off at any time.
I would say to stay away from bars for awhile. Your post made me think of the saying "if you hang around a barbershop long long enough you're bound to get a haircut."
I would say to stay away from bars for awhile. Your post made me think of the saying "if you hang around a barbershop long long enough you're bound to get a haircut."
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Pat yourself on the back! Good job! I found those situations very difficult also. I loved to entertain and wine was a great part of it. I remember how my hand shook the first few times I entertained without gripping a wine glass...it does get easier and you might even notice that the number of friends that don't drink!
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Originally Posted by Oceanlady 
Pat yourself on the back! Good job! I found those situations very difficult also. I loved to entertain and wine was a great part of it. I remember how my hand shook the first few times I entertained without gripping a wine glass...it does get easier and you might even notice that the number of friends that don't drink!
It wasn't till I remained sober at an event that I realized I was the one drinking all the booze. Everyone else just had a few. Not to mention I was also the only one noticeably drunk at most of these events.
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I'm right there with you. Tonight I went to the casino, and everyone I looked at had a drink in hand. I stuck it out with a coke. But the thought of ordering a drink popped into my head every time I looked at one. But when I got home and realized I was sober, I was so thankful and proud of myself. The sense of euphoria you get from not doing it, is just as good, if not better then any drink. I snuggled with my kids and watched lego batman with them when I got home, at nine! If I would have ordered that drink, I would have missed out on that. Think of it that way. 
Congrats on not letting the devil get to you tonight....
Congrats on not letting the devil get to you tonight....
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The difficulty I found was in remembering the chaos alcohol caused a few weeks later, everything is viewed through rose tinted glasses and we can convince ourselves we can now moderate or only have a couple.
Recommitting and accepting that abstinence no matter how long would not in some way cure or fix me, drinking would still be the same no matter what, also reading old posts on the chaos drinking used to cause I found was always helpful as a reminder.
Hnag in there!!
Recommitting and accepting that abstinence no matter how long would not in some way cure or fix me, drinking would still be the same no matter what, also reading old posts on the chaos drinking used to cause I found was always helpful as a reminder.
Hnag in there!!
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As much as i would love to, i really can't miss this lunch. My flat mate has asked me every saturday since chrsitmas and settled on this day because it's the first saturday that i don't have a hike and everyone can get together. I have told my flatmate that i am not drinking but it's very difficult to try to explain that to a genuine moderate spanish drinker who doesn't even understand the concept of a binge. I highly doubt that she would ever try to convince me to drink but it will be difficult enough just having it around me. Wine with lunch and dinner is my favourite way to drink. Just 2.5 hours to go until people arrive and the battle begins :| xxxx
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Messy, remember you don't have to tell them you quite drinking...I used elevated blood sugar concerns for a few months!
I watched a "normal drinker" sip on one glass of wine the other night for over an hour. I would have had 4-5 down...I will not ever be a normal drinker!
I watched a "normal drinker" sip on one glass of wine the other night for over an hour. I would have had 4-5 down...I will not ever be a normal drinker!
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I use excuses that make it impossible for me to drink without raising an eyebrow. I don't know if it's a recommended strategy, but I say I'm on strong nsaids for pain relief of some sort of tendonitis. I've also switched it up with antibiotic treatments for some non contagious ailment. No one bothers me to drink, and if tempted I know I'll look like an idiot if I drink.
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