Bipolar sister just called. very delicate topic.
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Bipolar sister just called. very delicate topic.
**This post talks about my suicidal family member. Please click away if this will upset you. I'm sorry if it does but I'm anxious.**
My sister called me tonight. I could barely hear her over the mechanical chirps interfering with the reception on her phone.
She is bi-polar and not medicated at all. She says she feels numb on the meds. She has threatened suicide several times before and sought help. Tonight she is in a city thousands of miles away. She called me and said she left for a hotel "So the kidseds. She has threatened suicide several times before and sought help. Tonight she is in a city thousands of miles away. She called me and said she left for a hotel "So the kids won't see me do it."
She told me she loved me. I'm not sure if the last thing she said was "donate me" (she often talks of wanting her body donated to science) but I think she really said "Don't hate me."
Then the line went dead. Her phone is off. Her husband doesn't care. I don't know where she is, so the police said they can't be too much help at this time. I begged her not to do anything. I am convinced that she is planning to go through with this.
I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here. I will not drink no matter what, but right now I need to not be alone with my thoughts.
My sister called me tonight. I could barely hear her over the mechanical chirps interfering with the reception on her phone.
She is bi-polar and not medicated at all. She says she feels numb on the meds. She has threatened suicide several times before and sought help. Tonight she is in a city thousands of miles away. She called me and said she left for a hotel "So the kidseds. She has threatened suicide several times before and sought help. Tonight she is in a city thousands of miles away. She called me and said she left for a hotel "So the kids won't see me do it."
She told me she loved me. I'm not sure if the last thing she said was "donate me" (she often talks of wanting her body donated to science) but I think she really said "Don't hate me."
Then the line went dead. Her phone is off. Her husband doesn't care. I don't know where she is, so the police said they can't be too much help at this time. I begged her not to do anything. I am convinced that she is planning to go through with this.
I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here. I will not drink no matter what, but right now I need to not be alone with my thoughts.
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Hi! Oh no!! What a horrible situation!!!
I hate that, worrying about something, knots in your stomach nothing you can do. ( hug)
Glad to hear you're not drinking, hang in there.
I'm not a praying type of person so I don't know what to say, but definitely sending positive energy your way and thinking of you and your sister xoxo
I hate that, worrying about something, knots in your stomach nothing you can do. ( hug)
Glad to hear you're not drinking, hang in there.
I'm not a praying type of person so I don't know what to say, but definitely sending positive energy your way and thinking of you and your sister xoxo
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I'm really sorry you're in this situation DoP.
One of the former Mrs Dees used to do this quite a bit and I really empathise with the helpless feeling.
I had to accept in the end that I'd done everything I reasonably could and that her actions were not really anything to do with me.
She is still alive. Thankfully she never went through with her plans.
It might sound like a cliche but I really believe prayer helps...if you're not a prayer, being part of this community will help too.
One of the former Mrs Dees used to do this quite a bit and I really empathise with the helpless feeling.
I had to accept in the end that I'd done everything I reasonably could and that her actions were not really anything to do with me.
She is still alive. Thankfully she never went through with her plans.
It might sound like a cliche but I really believe prayer helps...if you're not a prayer, being part of this community will help too.
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I'm not entirely sure what goes on in their marriage but he's been emotionally abusive in the past if not physically. She was also molested as a child. She is also an alcoholic as well as a cocaine user. I suspect her to be quite high on both at the moment.
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I'm so sorry for your situation, DoP -- I imagine you must be sick with worry.
Try to rest and do what you can to take care of yourself. Come here as often as you need for support.
Do you know of anyone else that she keeps contact with? If she's reached out to you, maybe she's reached out to others as well, someone who could track her down.
Please remember that you're not alone.
Try to rest and do what you can to take care of yourself. Come here as often as you need for support.
Do you know of anyone else that she keeps contact with? If she's reached out to you, maybe she's reached out to others as well, someone who could track her down.
Please remember that you're not alone.
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Gosh your post really pulls at me. My sister would often call me many miles away with similar statements. She was also a alcohol and cocaine user. Now she lives closer and is stable, in a positive relationship. I ended up telling her that if she called my with any type of self harm or suicudal statement I would immediately be calling an ambulance. I also told her I would no longer answer calls from her In The middle of the night. I would turn my phone off which was sooo difficult for me. I am extremely close to her and love her very much but I just could t emotionally handle it anymore. I am going to pray for you and her. Those were some of the most stressful times of my life and I hate that you are going through this. It's awesome that your not drinking.
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Your sister and you are in my prayers. Can u call a crisis center and tell them what u told us? I know this may be a little out there but maybe they can get police involved and trace call. If this blows over you may have to have her 302'd to help her get stable and save her life. I don't think it is her purposely trying to upset u its her brain not thinking straight because of the untreated bipolar plus the fuel on the fire: alcohol and drugs. Even people without mental health issues who deal with active addiction present as psychotic / depressed/ anxious etc.
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