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About three weeks ago I became a father from a healthy son.
We named him Levi Nathan L.
He was born too early, his date should be november fourth.
Luckely he is strong and after a few days allready he didn't need help anymore from a machine.
We can take him home (FINALLY!!!!) in a few days...
It was a wonderfull and terrible experience all at once..I was there the whole time and I held (sober) my girlfriend while she gave birth.
Im gratefull for that.
I still need some more growing up to do and some more reflection about my wasted past. But sober i'm confident enough that I can pull this whole father thing off.
Just wanted to share.
We named him Levi Nathan L.
He was born too early, his date should be november fourth.
Luckely he is strong and after a few days allready he didn't need help anymore from a machine.
We can take him home (FINALLY!!!!) in a few days...
It was a wonderfull and terrible experience all at once..I was there the whole time and I held (sober) my girlfriend while she gave birth.
Im gratefull for that.
I still need some more growing up to do and some more reflection about my wasted past. But sober i'm confident enough that I can pull this whole father thing off.
Just wanted to share.
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Congratulations, coming_clean!! 
I made life style decisions, including not having children, at a very young age, but these days (I am 40 now), I do question their validity.
Check out my recent posts/threads on my father-daughter relationship, if you like. I think everything you do can potentially impact this child. There is also an abundant body of scientific literature showing this.
Start NOW! I know that my father did things he was scared and unsure of, when I was a baby, actions that most likely influenced me and contributed to how I am able to connect with other people as an adult. I don't have kids but wish I could do the same!
I made life style decisions, including not having children, at a very young age, but these days (I am 40 now), I do question their validity.Check out my recent posts/threads on my father-daughter relationship, if you like. I think everything you do can potentially impact this child. There is also an abundant body of scientific literature showing this.
Start NOW! I know that my father did things he was scared and unsure of, when I was a baby, actions that most likely influenced me and contributed to how I am able to connect with other people as an adult. I don't have kids but wish I could do the same!
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Comingclean,
Congrats to you and your gf! My little ones (I had triplets) were also born early and I know what it feels like to have to leave them in the NICU. It's heartbreaking that they can't come home right away, but also such a huge relief to know they are being cared for by the experts. I can remember them being able to come home like it was yesterday, and they are now almost 17.
I agree with heannie. The relationship you build with this little person has a huge impact on him...how he relates to others, how he rises to adversity, how he seeks happiness, how he stays balanced in a crazy world.
It's a tough order for sure, but as a sober and clearheaded father, I know you are up for it.
Congrats to you and your gf! My little ones (I had triplets) were also born early and I know what it feels like to have to leave them in the NICU. It's heartbreaking that they can't come home right away, but also such a huge relief to know they are being cared for by the experts. I can remember them being able to come home like it was yesterday, and they are now almost 17.
I agree with heannie. The relationship you build with this little person has a huge impact on him...how he relates to others, how he rises to adversity, how he seeks happiness, how he stays balanced in a crazy world.
It's a tough order for sure, but as a sober and clearheaded father, I know you are up for it.
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Thank you all for your very kind replies..
I now have a new major karmatic responibility to be the wisest person I can be in relation to my son and being a parent, without loosing myself and my own development in the whole process.
This all starts with being as aware as possible thus maintaing sobriety and continue my meditation practise.
I will read more stuff about parenthood in the (near)future, I have books and will use the internet as well. Must forgot not to relax, and enjoy the little moments, for all passes too quickly in life.
When our son is at home with us, first we will have to find a new life balance, we're sorta stuck right now in a in-between phase. This will take some time, but we'll figure it out.My girlfriend and I are pretty good team.
Now I'm off to bed, hospital visits, 6 pets, work, excercise, relationships, familiy-visits it's a big workload. Need a solid 7,5 hours right now to maintain balance.
Take care all.
I now have a new major karmatic responibility to be the wisest person I can be in relation to my son and being a parent, without loosing myself and my own development in the whole process.
This all starts with being as aware as possible thus maintaing sobriety and continue my meditation practise.
I will read more stuff about parenthood in the (near)future, I have books and will use the internet as well. Must forgot not to relax, and enjoy the little moments, for all passes too quickly in life.
When our son is at home with us, first we will have to find a new life balance, we're sorta stuck right now in a in-between phase. This will take some time, but we'll figure it out.My girlfriend and I are pretty good team.
Now I'm off to bed, hospital visits, 6 pets, work, excercise, relationships, familiy-visits it's a big workload. Need a solid 7,5 hours right now to maintain balance.
Take care all.
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