Quick Post
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: in the city by the bay
Posts: 605
Quick Post
Not gonna read posts today. Just a quick accountability post that I am on Day 24 and still sober. Husband and I had a tiff last night. He seems to want to now discuss how horrible I was as a drunk mom/wife and I told him I can't listen to it. He holds everything in and now he wants to exhale.
but...still sober. I accused him last night of wanting me to stay drunk. I told him I don't want to hear it and he brought it up again a few hours after I said not to. Then he said "you were a mean drunk and you're mean sober". ???
All I said is...I guess when I went to bed I woke up my daughter, next thing I know she is crawling into our bed. My husband got annoyed and I said - for the first time ever - you know what? I don't mind if she wants to crawl into bed with us some nights. She doesn't do it often, you always get so annoyed but I really don't mind if it comforts her.
Then he grumbled about how he can't sleep with her in the bed. So I said "fine, I will sleep in her bed" and I left the room. I went into her room and slept in her bed.
Then he walked by and make the above comment about how mean I am.
Whatever...I've never minded when kids crawl into bed with me. I like it.
My ex-husband also used to get so mad when either of our kids crawled into bed with us.
What's more snuggly than sleeping next to a little kid? I'll take snuggling next to a cute 4-yr-old over a hairy middle-aged man any day...lol
does that sound mean? ok, maybe I'm mean.
I have brought up that Jon Bon Jovi had laser hair removal to no avail...
ok Peace Out...made it to Day 24...
but...still sober. I accused him last night of wanting me to stay drunk. I told him I don't want to hear it and he brought it up again a few hours after I said not to. Then he said "you were a mean drunk and you're mean sober". ???
All I said is...I guess when I went to bed I woke up my daughter, next thing I know she is crawling into our bed. My husband got annoyed and I said - for the first time ever - you know what? I don't mind if she wants to crawl into bed with us some nights. She doesn't do it often, you always get so annoyed but I really don't mind if it comforts her.
Then he grumbled about how he can't sleep with her in the bed. So I said "fine, I will sleep in her bed" and I left the room. I went into her room and slept in her bed.
Then he walked by and make the above comment about how mean I am.
Whatever...I've never minded when kids crawl into bed with me. I like it.
My ex-husband also used to get so mad when either of our kids crawled into bed with us.
What's more snuggly than sleeping next to a little kid? I'll take snuggling next to a cute 4-yr-old over a hairy middle-aged man any day...lol
does that sound mean? ok, maybe I'm mean.
I have brought up that Jon Bon Jovi had laser hair removal to no avail...ok Peace Out...made it to Day 24...
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,445
As tough as early recovery is on us, I think it's as tough on our partners. It may even be tougher, cos they may not understand why all this is happening....
I also think there's a lot of resentment on both sides that needs to be worked through, for all of us.
Give it time - for both of you
congrats on 24 days
D
I also think there's a lot of resentment on both sides that needs to be worked through, for all of us.
Give it time - for both of you
congrats on 24 days
D
Administrator
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 61,512
I hope that you will get to a place where you can listen to your husband's issues with your drinking. When you look at things from his point of view, it's likely been tough. I know it was hard for my husband. He felt very alone. I do think it's important to allow him to express his feelings. That said, it shouldn't be something that is brought up again and again because that is just hurtful.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
