Drinking buddies
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Drinking buddies
3 of my best friends are drinking buddies. How do I get around this? This seems like the hardest part. So many good memories with them. But they don't have a massive problem like me and they will always continue to drink on get togethers. I don't think I can hang out with them when they are just sitting there purposely getting drunk.
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I couldn't hang around drinkers when I quit. But then, they weren't my best friends either. What is it you find most difficult? Being around them? Or telling them that you quit drinking and that's why you aren't hanging around with them?
If they are your best friends, you should be able to tell them. Friends support friends. And if they can't refrain from drinking when they see you...well, that will tell you what kind of friends they are.
If they are your best friends, you should be able to tell them. Friends support friends. And if they can't refrain from drinking when they see you...well, that will tell you what kind of friends they are.
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Most of my drinking buddies were addicts. I only realized this after I stopped hanging out with them. They only cared about the drinking me. When I pushed back on hanging out with them they all disappeared. It may get lonely before it gets better.
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You're right. If they don't want to be there for me and can be happy to hang out in a non alcoholic situation they can not be true friends.
Need to find hobbies and meet new people that aren't alco's. Just don't know what I want to do
Need to find hobbies and meet new people that aren't alco's. Just don't know what I want to do
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Originally Posted by wardy1990 
Need to find hobbies and meet new people that aren't alco's. Just don't know what I want to do
Originally Posted by wardy1990
Even family gatherings always involve alcohol. It's never easy is it.
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Hi wardy1990,
I posted this in another thread but it works here too.
I posted this in another thread but it works here too.
Originally Posted by Treerat66
I went to a pub last Friday night, bought myself a non-alcoholic drink and went to find my friends to socialise. When I found them they where sitting around a table unable to talk to each other because the music was too loud and they had all drunk too much. They looked up at me with that pathetic boozy grin plastered on their faces and I felt really sorry for them. As Deeker's post said alcohol promises so much and delivers so little.
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For your friends you just have to be honest with them. Like doggonecarl says, if they're your friends... If you need to take a sabbatical from the 'friendship' for a time it's understandable. Once you have a good handle on sobriety you should be able to ease yourself back into the fold. Just be careful to not put yourself into situations that may be over tempting you.
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Welcome to the family. 
You will find out who your friends are. If they are only drinking buddies, then goodbye. If they are true friends they will respect your decision to be sober.
You will find out who your friends are. If they are only drinking buddies, then goodbye. If they are true friends they will respect your decision to be sober. 
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