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Hello,
I am living at home (for now) with an alcoholic mother and a more than patient dad. I am an adult and only just able to have the funds to begin the moving out process.
Some of the things I've seen, heard and been subjected to are unforgivable and I feel overwhelmingly guilty of my plan to have nothing to do with my mother (and therefore, be banned from contact with my dad).
I fear for my dads safety, we have had to call the police on her numerous times, each time being threatened if we press charges (for damage done to the house, physically hurting somebody, harassing and so on).
Has anybody else had any similar situations? Either been the person who cut the contact or been the person who was cut off?
I am living at home (for now) with an alcoholic mother and a more than patient dad. I am an adult and only just able to have the funds to begin the moving out process.
Some of the things I've seen, heard and been subjected to are unforgivable and I feel overwhelmingly guilty of my plan to have nothing to do with my mother (and therefore, be banned from contact with my dad).
I fear for my dads safety, we have had to call the police on her numerous times, each time being threatened if we press charges (for damage done to the house, physically hurting somebody, harassing and so on).
Has anybody else had any similar situations? Either been the person who cut the contact or been the person who was cut off?
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Hi Last Straw - welcome 
you'll find a lot of support and understanding here.
I'm glad you're thinking of moving out.
I'm sure you can maintain a relationship with your dad in some way even if you want to detach yourself from your mother.
Read around here and post as much as you like - check out our Family and Friends forums too
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you'll find a lot of support and understanding here.
I'm glad you're thinking of moving out.
I'm sure you can maintain a relationship with your dad in some way even if you want to detach yourself from your mother.
Read around here and post as much as you like - check out our Family and Friends forums too
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be available in a distant way
Originally Posted by LastStraw7 
Has anybody else had any similar situations? Either been the person who cut the contact or been the person who was cut off?
it's sad as I look back at what alcoholism and drug addiction
has done to myself, family and friends
you are probably doing what is best for now
it's very hard -- but -- you should have no guilt
be available in a distant way
for if and when you may be needed in the future
MM
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Welcome to SR. This is all about you know.
In life we sometimes need to make difficult choices, but at the end, if we put everyone else before us, we lose ourselves, and I don't think that is fair to us.
In life we sometimes need to make difficult choices, but at the end, if we put everyone else before us, we lose ourselves, and I don't think that is fair to us.
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