Mellybug

A few weeks ago I broke it off with my XABF. Completely said that I was done.

Yesterday, he texted me that "....we just don't have what we used to anymore..." and I think he broke up with me.

Um...Apparently he didn't think that me moving out and saying that I was done with the relationship was a breakup.

At the time I was kind of hurt that my words STILL mean that little to him that he didn't even take it seriously that I ended the relationship. Then I thought, perhaps he was drunk...perhaps he was hungover...perhaps he was drunk when he texted me that yesterday...or hungover. Either way - at least we're now on the same page.

I kind of have to chuckle about it today...I was dumped by a man that I dumped a few weeks ago. Now, THAT'S a funny story!

KateL

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Hope4Life

Nice that he was listening and paying attention, huh?

You are MUCH better off w/o him, Melly!

suki44883

They're just precious, aren't they?

friskme

At least you are aware of your surroundings Kudos! and jes keep moving forward. You will be fine

Mellybug

Honestly, the sadness only lasted a few minutes...the laughter has lasted a day and a half so far. Probably last for a good long time!

Hey, if he needs it to be HIS idea in order to get it through his head that we're done, I'm OK with that.

Lyssy

Bless his heart.

lol.

What is it with these guys?? I wont hijack the thread, but dealing with similar here.

Recovering2

Well he certainly showed YOU didn't he??!! LOL!!!

readerbaby71

I'm laughing just reading your post.

spiderqueen

Oh lord, is that ever familiar. I remember one particularly dramatic, sad break up with my xABF; I cried all night, I called his mom, I felt sick and awful and drained. A couple days later when he surfaced from his alcoholic haze, I got a "Hi Honey, what's up?" text and was like, GRRRRR!!!! That whole thing was totally wasted on you! We broke up! And you don't even REMEMBER!!! Sadly, even that got to be normal for us. Another time, I called his mom, and said, "Well, we broke up again. But I doubt he'll remember. Sooo, I'll be waiting til he sobers up to have The Talk again."

*ugh*

Bernadette777

Mellybug,

Hi, that's a very funny story! Thank you because we knows what that's like. Thanks for making us smile. And good for you for the courage to do it.
Bernadette 777 best wishes to you. Be blessed.

Mellybug

OH, and yes...this morning I got the "Good morning! Wishing you a great day!" text. Apparently not only doesn't he remember ME dumping HIM, but he doesn't remember HIM dumping ME, either!

I had forgotten about that text until Spiderqueen just reminded me! Thanks...now I have even a BIGGER chuckle!

Mellybug

If you feel the need to hijack, feel free...here, need a bandana?

lillamy

I had a boss like that once.
If anyone came up with a great idea, he shot it down.
And then two weeks later, he'd bring the idea up as if it was his, and the first time, and brilliant.

hopeful4

LOL....I sort of had the same experience. I literally told my AH to get out and slammed the door behind him and said, "Get your crap and don't come back."

It took him about 4 days then he told our kids that it was really over and he was going to have to move out. Um.....I guess you did not think I meant it when I slammed and locked the door behind you? Geez......

Mellybug

Perhaps we are just not effective communicators? When we say exactly what we mean instead of beating around the bush...perhaps it's just "too direct" so there is NO possible way we could really mean that....could we?

Things I have said,
"We are not compatible"
"I'm done"
"I refuse to live like this"
"Yes, it really is as bad as I think it is"
"No, I'm not going to move back in"
"No, I'm not going to have sex with you. I can only be sexually intimate with someone I feel loved and safe with, and I feel neither of those things with you."
"It's over".

I'm sure I wasn't direct enough in those statements...I must have given mixed signals somehow. LOL

hopeful4

Melly...we must be linked up because I have said the same things! Problem being, for the years and years I said these things I never ever backed up what I was saying with action. I don't know how much more clear we can make, "IT'S OVER" LOL.

FireSprite

I laughed at your OP in this thread, but this has me positively ROLLING!


This is the stuff that is so Crazy-Making!!! Good for you for seeing right through it & not getting sucked into it emotionally. I think I may seriously chuckle about this all day, you just can't make stuff like this up!

HopefulinFLA

Funny, AH does this a lot! Sometimes it takes weeks to come up with HIS brilliant idea, sometimes it's a matter of minutes after I said it.

Is it just an A thing? Do they even listen to us? Lmao