Time for a change
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Time for a change
Hi, I am new here. Been drinking twenty years with one year sober, 2006. Finding it hard to accept that I cannot drink again. Ruining my marriage and wondering whether to just give up and do it alone. Seeing counsellor next week but AA scares me. Any advice?
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It can be a problem thinking you can never drink again. Personally I have tried to turn the argument around and focus on all the positives of not drinking. When you add them up why would I want to drink again.i am getting free .it is like being freed from a prison sentence! Give yourself a target of thirty days and see how you feel then. You may be surprised. Good luck
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Originally Posted by Toffee1 
It can be a problem thinking you can never drink again. Personally I have tried to turn the argument around and focus on all the positives of not drinking. When you add them up why would I want to drink again.i am getting free .it is like being freed from a prison sentence! Give yourself a target of thirty days and see how you feel then. You may be surprised. Good luck
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Welcome to SR Jhope
I agree with what others have said about focusing on the positives. We often see alcohol as this miracle drug and feel like we are giving something up but when you really look at it you gain a lot from sobriety, far more than any of the supposed benefits of drinking. As the quote goes 'sobriety delivers everything alcohol promised'.
Glad you're here x
I agree with what others have said about focusing on the positives. We often see alcohol as this miracle drug and feel like we are giving something up but when you really look at it you gain a lot from sobriety, far more than any of the supposed benefits of drinking. As the quote goes 'sobriety delivers everything alcohol promised'.
Glad you're here x
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Welcome jhope
is it AA specifically that scares you? cos there are other recovery groups...
If meetings scare you there are approaches like Rational Recovery that don;t involve meetings at all.
As for me, I got sober with the help of this community.
I was done and really wanted a sober life, and I made the difficult but necessary changes in my life that I needed to make - cut out a few friends, stayed home for a while so I wouldn't be tempted etc
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is it AA specifically that scares you? cos there are other recovery groups...
If meetings scare you there are approaches like Rational Recovery that don;t involve meetings at all.
As for me, I got sober with the help of this community.
I was done and really wanted a sober life, and I made the difficult but necessary changes in my life that I needed to make - cut out a few friends, stayed home for a while so I wouldn't be tempted etc
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