Newlook3

Hi all, it's been many months since I posted here. At the time I had just separated from my alcoholic/ controlling partner of the last 13 years and had found myself at rock bottom. I poured my heart out on this forum and complete strangers offered me comfort and advice all of which was most welcome. I was lucky as I had great support from family and friends, a great counsellor and a fantastic boss. I had a month off work at my lowest point and then slowly started to recover. I returned to work, focussed on my self, my daughter and my friends and actually started living again, something I realise now that I hadn't been doing for so very long, I laughed, had fun and could breath again, no longer walking on eggshells.
Nearly a year has passed since our initial separation and initially I dreamed of reconciliation, that didnt last long once my head was out of the mess that being with him had caused.
Things now are so good I don't give him a second thought. A few weeks ago I was out with friends and met someone...I was obviously wary but I can honestly say I have met someone who is the complete opposite of my ex. I am taking it really slowly and just getting to know him, whilst still having lots of time with my daughter, who is soooo much happier and now has a lovely serious boyfriend and my friends.
Really all I wanted to say was thank you to all of you that took the time to read my posts and to offer such comfort when I needed it. At that time I never could have imagined that life would be so good now. Me and my ex are no contact now and have been for some months, obviously living in a small town some info gets back to me. He was still with the woman he had an affair with the last I heard, he had taken her to the local pub, drinking all day and had a massive row with her...I cannot tell you how glad I am to be out of that situation. For all those going through what I did I wish you the very best and hope you all can regain your lives however you choose to do so xx

Hammer

Gratitude feels pretty darn good, huh?

So. Thanks to you, too.

dandylion

Thank you soo much NewLook for taking the time to share this FABULOUS update. I remember you, and am so proud of the progress you have made in taking control of your l ife back!!!!!

No longer riding the train to crazytown....Horray!

dandylion

Booo

Nice! Brave, strong and bravo to you!

Newlook3

Dandylion, you offered so much support at a very bad time, thank you. Now in a good place i intend to look in every now and again and hopefully offer the same support to others when they really need it. I feel like my life has started all over again and for a long time i didn't believe it would.
This forum is awesome and the people who support regularly are a godsend!!