seethefuture

Just checking in. I have 25 days and chugging along - no desire to drink and I've been able to meet up with people having drinks and not had the urge.

Most remarkable is that I made it through a very painful visit with my elderly parents. I mentioned this before, but since I am not very active on here, I'll repeat - my brother died in August (age 45) and it has been terrible. Now, it's like my parents are mad at ME because I am the alive one. I guess that is a stage of grief, but it sure does not feel good, especially considering I have been the responsible, successful one that they have not had to support or worry about.

Those are the kind of situations that make me want to drink - but I didn't!

Hoping you are all having success with your goals.

Impurrfect

Congratulations on 25 days!! I'm so sorry for what you and your parents are going through, but time can heal a lot of feelings (been there, done that). Just keep doing what is best for you. That's the most important thing IMO. I didn't have the same situation but I had a VERY angry dad. As I moved further into recovery, we moved past the hurt, pain, resentments, etc. He had to see my actions for quite a while, not just my words.

You're doing great!

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Melina

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I'm glad you're staying sober through this terrible time.

Best,
Melina

JLC82

Great Job on your sobriety! Keep it going!! Sorry for your loss. I know grief, and it is a beast within itself. This to shall pass.

pinkdog

Hi seethefuture, congratulations on your 25 days!! Great job.

Erik1980

That's awesome! I'm on day 1 and I am really hoping it's not as hard as I think it will be to quit. It's my first attempt at quitting, so who knows how it will be for me..,,,

Kaneda8888

Cool, keep going. It only gets better

neferkamichael

Seethefuture, 25 days? You are FANTASTIC. Congratulations. Rootin for ya.

Skye2

Well done on 25 days, especially with the current family issues. I am really sorry to hear about your brother. I was getting something similar from my Dad when my mum passed and in the end I said 'I've lost someone I loved as well you know' - He looked at me and we both burst into tears and it's been fine since.
It's the old cliché - we always hurt the ones closest to us - I really hope it resolves itself soon for you

shay17

Dear seethefuture,

Fantastic job staying sober after such a tragedy. That's when it's easier to make excuses to drink even more and you've taken the higher road. Bravo!

We have the exact same sober birthday ! I'm 25 days today also, lets keep going strong !

Best wishes,
Shay

ReadyAtLast

Congrats on 25 days.keep up the great work

I'm sorry about your brother,that's very sad

anchorbird

Congratulations! There will come a time when we need to face the feelings of life and I applaud you for taking that on. Keep it up!

Dee74

sorry for your loss, but 25 days is awesome - a great way to honour your brother's memory too...

D.

seethefuture

Thanks, everyone. My brother died in a boating accident and alcohol was involved. We don't know if that contributed or if he had a natural issue that caused him to fall in (he had health issues) but either way, he was night fishing, slipped into the water, and his friend woke to an empty boat. I refuse to quiz his friend as the poor guy has enough to deal with. But - yes, as Dee said, this is a way to honor his memory.

Hopefully my parents (mostly my mom) will move to the next stage of grief soon and it won't involve focusing on my flaws. I'm in the middle of a divorce, and while they are very supportive of my decision, they are less than helpful with the criticisms and whatnot.