One too many, it stops now.
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Join Date: Oct 2013
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One too many, it stops now.
Hi, It has finally dawned on me that I need to stop drinking, I thought I could do the drink in moderation thing but I am fooling myself. I was never the type to crave alcohol on a daily or weekly basis, in fact I am (was) your typical social drinker but the problem arose when the occasional big social evening would end up with me drinking too much and forgetting half the night and waking up to my (once again) angry wife. We also have kids and they are getting to the age where they would notice my behavior if I wasn't careful. The bottom line is that I have a problem with alcohol and it is affecting my relationship with my wife and my health - 2 things that are very important to me.
So here goes....day 3!
So here goes....day 3!
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Join Date: Sep 2013
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Good on you! My drinking pattern is much like yours. Before I decided to quit, I was only drinking a few drinks on the weekends, and rarely on the weekdays. However, when I got started in some "real drinking", particularly in a party scene, there was no holding me back much to the embarrassment of myself and my spouse. I have stayed clear of labeling myself. Telling myself, one day at a time, has been extremely helpful. Welcome, you will find this forum extremely helpful.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: sydney
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Welcome, I'm day 86 sober. I think most of us have the same experience. If we could only just have a few, we wouldnt be here. You will get lots of support here, the people have been amazing. All the best to you.
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Join Date: Feb 2013
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Adsup - that's where I started. Though my kids noticed before I started stopping. "Dad likes his wine." Or "dad likes his beer.". Alcohol has indeed lied to me (stolen from a book title.)
Prepare yourself for an uphill battle. One where society will tilt their heads in disbelief. One where men may consider another abstaining man weak. Alcohol is the most prevalent conspiracy and you've decided to fight against it. The good news is you have a lot of support if you look for it in the right places (like here). Buckle in and hold tight!
Prepare yourself for an uphill battle. One where society will tilt their heads in disbelief. One where men may consider another abstaining man weak. Alcohol is the most prevalent conspiracy and you've decided to fight against it. The good news is you have a lot of support if you look for it in the right places (like here). Buckle in and hold tight!
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Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: C.C. Ma.
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Congratulations on recognizing something is amiss with your drinking. Being honest with ourselves about our drinking is a major achievement with alcoholics and certainly aids in fixing the problem. BE WELL
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Location: Toronto Canada
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Welcome, adsup, and congratulations on your decision. I hope that you understand you most certainly can choose to quit drinking, and stay quit. The idea that this will be an uphill battle is not one you need to accept, and those of us who are sober know that sobriety is no sign of weakness.
Your life will be so much better without alcohol, and you are free now to become who you want to be. Onward!
Your life will be so much better without alcohol, and you are free now to become who you want to be. Onward!
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Join Date: Aug 2013
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I was where you are, AdsUp. Unfortunately, my wake up call did not arrive until things spiraled down. My drinking increased in frequency and amount. My marriage ended. My work suffered. Congratulations on having the insight to quit when you did. Good luck. I am glad you are here with us.
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Join Date: Aug 2013
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Excellent post! Welcome!
I love how you describe that you realized how drinking in moderation isn't possible and that you need to quit. And why it is important to do so.
You acknowledge that you have a problem and are determined to stay sober.
Keep us posted and if you have any question or simply want to post, there's a whole lot of great people here to help you out!
I love how you describe that you realized how drinking in moderation isn't possible and that you need to quit. And why it is important to do so.
You acknowledge that you have a problem and are determined to stay sober.
Keep us posted and if you have any question or simply want to post, there's a whole lot of great people here to help you out!
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