ACT10Npack

Does anyone have this problem about self control in life in general when getting sober?

Olive1

I sometimes eat too much candy. And then I get a headache. And I still eat more candy.

Nuudawn

Well I think those of prone to addiction have some problems with our "off" button. I spoke about this in my post yesterday about trying to fill the hole or quell the restless vacancy that occurs when the alcohol pacifier is taken away. I have used a variety of methods...coffee, food, cigarettes, sex, gambling, drama etc. We have to face the vacancy I think ..and discover new ways to fill our time...and "hole" : )

neferkamichael

ACT10npack, I'm working on self-control but I haven't figured out much. Doin great on the chemical independence, tomorrow 3 years sober. I'm beginning to believe gettin rid of the chemicals was the easy part.

aasharon90

My self control or self will runs riot, crazy,
out of control and never works out the way
I want it to. When my will doesn't work, I'm
upset, angry and can cop a resentment real
fast.

A constant turning my will and life over
to a Force bigger than I seems to work
best for me. The way it is suppose to be.

It does take practice and patience one day
at a time to achieve peace and serenity in
everyday life.

hypochondriac

What are you having problems with Action?

I have always had problems with self control, that's why alcohol isn't the only thing I have given up. So far abstinence is the only thing that works with anything with me.

Bruce292

For me part of getting sober was learning how to exercise or practice my self control. For me that was the hardest thing to do.

Threshold

I've been experiencing this, but I use the term self-discipline. As in the discipline of learning something, not as in punishment.

I like the classy way it sounds to me...and it sounds less like I am struggling with myself and more like I am stream lining myself.

I had a long talk with myself today about this. I wasn't thrilled with the way my day got scheduled round some other things, but I figured out how to best use the time and opportunities and got some important things done. If I was trying the self control thing, I would have been wrestling with my own resentments etc, but I turned it to "self discipline" and was like "oh yeah...I GOT this!" and feel like I accomplished more than just not doing something I shouldn't...I did some things that I should.

Lyoness

I struggle with this, too. Off the oxy my sugar consumption has increased dramatically, like 10lbs dramatically. I find the other things I am obsessive about come more to the fore too. I have dermatillomania (have a thread on that in Anxiety forum if anyone's interested) and that is as bad as it was while using.

Like said above, I have holes to fill and emotions to deal with and things to heal and when I don't feel capable or desirous of doing so, the other obsessions come to the fore. I know if I just keep trying to slowly work on my underlying issues the surface stuff will eventually begin to ease. But it is a long, slow process, for me anyway.

FreeFall

It's definitely a struggle...I quit drinking and smoking and now I have to quit overeating and make myself exercise. It's a never ending battle...

neferkamichael

Freefall, I am right where you are, no booze, dope, or cigarettes, as a matter of fact 3 years no booze as I type, but 25 pounds over weight. Never been over weight before.