almost a wk sober n lost
Hi Msmaggie
yeah when you've spent years when fun came from opening a bottle, it's hard to think in a different way.
Do you have any hobbies, any interests - anything you'd like to do?
here's some suggestions to start the brain juices flowing
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
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yeah when you've spent years when fun came from opening a bottle, it's hard to think in a different way.
Do you have any hobbies, any interests - anything you'd like to do?
here's some suggestions to start the brain juices flowing
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ething-do.html
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hey ms maggie...
welcome to SR! you'll find a lot of support and encouragement here.
i'm 20 days sober today, so i don't have a ton of info (more people will be along who do), but i'm just going to AA meetings, knocking out small chores here and there, reading (for myself and with my kids), and resting as much as possible (i'm still experiencing waves of exhaustion in early recovery.)
you'll get a lot more ideas from other posters, but i'd say do anything that keeps you busy and/or relaxed, and nothing that makes you want to feed the addiction...
welcome to SR! you'll find a lot of support and encouragement here.
i'm 20 days sober today, so i don't have a ton of info (more people will be along who do), but i'm just going to AA meetings, knocking out small chores here and there, reading (for myself and with my kids), and resting as much as possible (i'm still experiencing waves of exhaustion in early recovery.)
you'll get a lot more ideas from other posters, but i'd say do anything that keeps you busy and/or relaxed, and nothing that makes you want to feed the addiction...
Welcome to SR Maggie
This might sound silly but when I quit drinking I wrote a list of things I could do which I enjoyed, which weren't drinking. It was all stuff that would take like half an hour, so it provided a useful distraction when I got cravings and just eased me into sober living without heading straight on into something obsessive. To be honest what I did mostly was read magazines (I didn't have the level of concentration to tackle anything else), go for walks, and cook elaborate dinners that took hours to prepare.
I think the feeling of boredom though is more a feeling of emptiness we get when our DOC is taken from us. Because that's what it feels like, loss. For a while anyway, until the benefits of sobriety start piling up and you realise what you are gaining
This might sound silly but when I quit drinking I wrote a list of things I could do which I enjoyed, which weren't drinking. It was all stuff that would take like half an hour, so it provided a useful distraction when I got cravings and just eased me into sober living without heading straight on into something obsessive. To be honest what I did mostly was read magazines (I didn't have the level of concentration to tackle anything else), go for walks, and cook elaborate dinners that took hours to prepare.
I think the feeling of boredom though is more a feeling of emptiness we get when our DOC is taken from us. Because that's what it feels like, loss. For a while anyway, until the benefits of sobriety start piling up and you realise what you are gaining
Boredom is something you will have to be proactive in dealing with. Your life needs to change in order for sobriety to work. What did you like to do before you started drinking? Focus on a few small things, and step out of your comfort zone more and more, as you get more sure of yourself and what you are capable of.
Sobriety is more than setting the bottle down, its a way of life and changing how you currently live. Its an ongoing process that I dont think ends, but its worth it. Think of who you will be and how amazing you will feel in 1 year from now? As you change, you will find things are just easier and you get into touch with yourself, the true you. Think of some things you used to like to do, or things you have always wanted to do, but got pushed aside due to your focus being on alcohol. Then start doing them. If you are bored, its up to you to change it............no one else can do that fore you. Good luck!!!
Sobriety is more than setting the bottle down, its a way of life and changing how you currently live. Its an ongoing process that I dont think ends, but its worth it. Think of who you will be and how amazing you will feel in 1 year from now? As you change, you will find things are just easier and you get into touch with yourself, the true you. Think of some things you used to like to do, or things you have always wanted to do, but got pushed aside due to your focus being on alcohol. Then start doing them. If you are bored, its up to you to change it............no one else can do that fore you. Good luck!!!
I think everyones afraid of change - but it got to the point I was more afraid of not changing, y'know?
I'm glad I changed my life - I'm sure you will be too - there's a lot of support here - you're not alone
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I'm glad I changed my life - I'm sure you will be too - there's a lot of support here - you're not alone
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I am only 17 days sober and I have been exercising a lot when I get the urge to go out and party. I have been running and walking and swimming. I have always wanted to write a novel and that is something I want to do soon. Be creative and have no fear!
Maggie - I'm in the same boat. I'm one week sober and right now all of my friends, from many different cliques, are hitting me up for parties. Asking me where I am, what I'm doing. Yesterday I ate out at a favorite Mexican restaurant and ordered a tonic with lime. Everyone looked at me like "do what?". I would consider myself, and more than likely be considered, the life of the party. Now I feel like I'm justifying myself to everyone when I really shouldn't. Yes, new friends and new "things" to do on the weekend. But there's an upside. You can change. We can change. We have a community here. I found this site just today and am loving it already. Just focus on the future and what life will be without the bottle. You'll realize your potential in a way you never thought possible. We're here for you. We can do this.
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I know we can do it,and it's something I really want! I did take the vivitrol shot which is a 28-day shot which even if you drink you get no effects from it its just its so scary too change everything everything in your life has to change
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Hey Msmaggie. I hear ya. Drinking WAS my hobby. It killed boredom and made a night like tonight (where I"m home alone) bearable. Today I realized I don't have a big network of friends I can call up and say "hey, let's do something". I tried one and she was busy. I'm currently single (and I'm pretty sure that had something to do with my longtime companion..alcohol). I've been abusing alcohol a long time...and even when I did stuff..I did it with my buddy booze.
So ya..it's going to take some times to navigate sobriety and find some interests and things I enjoy. I have a new book to start....and I just made my self a fresh strawberry pineapple smoothie...but we need patience Mags... we need to get to know ourselves and what the heck we like to do ; )
So ya..it's going to take some times to navigate sobriety and find some interests and things I enjoy. I have a new book to start....and I just made my self a fresh strawberry pineapple smoothie...but we need patience Mags... we need to get to know ourselves and what the heck we like to do ; )
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Damn, you got that right....my best friend was beer, it just went hand in hand with everything I did....my hunny is quitting with me which is helping. ..but he's all I feel I have right now! Even being with him is different as we were always drinking....I called him tonight from work crying an he was right there for me but I'm .....I don't know wtf I am right now, besides lost
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Aw ..well, at least you got a honey The fact that I don't know what to do with myself motivates me even more to stay sober and figure it out. I'm divorcing that buddy...wasted years of my life...want more....what? lol..don't know..gotta figure it. I want to learn guitar, among other things, but I'm not quite a couple weeks in yet and I'm still stuck in listlessness and fatigue..like some sort of sober stupor...but this too shall pass.....
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