Boyfriend stopped drinking...
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Boyfriend stopped drinking...
I'm kelly, i'm 18 and have been dating my bf for about a year and a half now. he's been an alcoholic since ive met him. drug addict before i met him. anyways, he's always telling me he's going to quit drinking and he will.. who knows for how long. I believe the longest he went was 3 months and he started right back at it. I know i'm young and I have so much more life to live but I just dont know if I can actually LIVE it with him.. he's only 20 but I dont know if hent when he was drunk a while ago.. but I've never loved or cared about anyone 'll ever change.
I've tried leaving him in the past when we got in a huge argumeso much. He's such a great guy when hes not drinking; he's everything ive ever wanted. Except THE DRINKING. Anyways i just cant decide.. do i stay or do i go? How can i answer that question myself?
I've tried leaving him in the past when we got in a huge argumeso much. He's such a great guy when hes not drinking; he's everything ive ever wanted. Except THE DRINKING. Anyways i just cant decide.. do i stay or do i go? How can i answer that question myself?
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I can't make that decision for you to stay or leave. But 18 years old is very young if you are pointing out marriage anytime soon. I don't know if he will stop drinking, will be up to him. Will it be hard to stop drinking for good, I general think. I'm trying to quit too.
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Welcome to SR! You realize that you can't make him stop drinking, he has to stop for himself. The other thing is that drinking only gets worse, never better. We have a good forum here for friends and families of alcoholics. Take a look and post your questions there for more insight.
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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You might also try posting (and reading some of the other threads from people with similar experiences) over in the Friends and Family of Alcoholics section here:
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As an ex-alcoholic and having dated a few alcoholics myself. I'd suggest leaving him. Explain that you're not going to be with him as long as he's drinking. If he cares enough to quit after that, you can always take him back. But you don't want to be stuck with a drinker forever, especially not if it's already a problem.
Rarely do people actually change. What you see is what you get. If he's a drinker that makes promises to quit and doesn't... there's a good chance that will continue for a long time.
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
As an ex-alcoholic and having dated a few alcoholics myself. I'd suggest leaving him. Explain that you're not going to be with him as long as he's drinking. If he cares enough to quit after that, you can always take him back. But you don't want to be stuck with a drinker forever, especially not if it's already a problem.
Rarely do people actually change. What you see is what you get. If he's a drinker that makes promises to quit and doesn't... there's a good chance that will continue for a long time.
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