How crazy can they get?
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How crazy can they get?
I know we are all on this forum trying to put our lives back together and that this is a 'disease' we are all dealing with.
I was about to say that I listen when people tell me I have a problem - but that can't be true as so many times recently I have sensed or been told by those close to me that they are so relieved I have 'finally' decided to get help and distance/leave AH. Here come the 'but' or maybe its just a rant.
During the many years with AH I often - many many times felt jealous and hurt at the way he seemed to choose/care more for his mother over me - skip forward to now - he is being asked very publicly by a lawyer appointed for his mother to either account for the money or return the money he took from her last year. This is all being done in a chain mail which my children are included in - I am not and Thank God for it in a way. He does not seem bothered by this and is refusing to answer questions about returning the money. (Btw I know that some of this money is what he is now trying to use to pay another lawyer to divorce/harass me!) - but feel guitly about blabbing on him.
I guess I am wondering how do you get to this stage where - he is now fighting multiple battles on multiple fronts and has fallen so far in terms of morality. Even though it brings it home to me that it's not personal I am still so shocked/hurt that I am connected to this 'strange person'. My daugher visited me recently which is how I know all this and said - things don't look good for him. I feel he is well ....stealing from his own mother. It feels awful. I imagine that in time these things will bother me less - but it's still so hard to see your previous bestfriend/soul mate in this horrible light. Thanks for listening.
I was about to say that I listen when people tell me I have a problem - but that can't be true as so many times recently I have sensed or been told by those close to me that they are so relieved I have 'finally' decided to get help and distance/leave AH. Here come the 'but' or maybe its just a rant.
During the many years with AH I often - many many times felt jealous and hurt at the way he seemed to choose/care more for his mother over me - skip forward to now - he is being asked very publicly by a lawyer appointed for his mother to either account for the money or return the money he took from her last year. This is all being done in a chain mail which my children are included in - I am not and Thank God for it in a way. He does not seem bothered by this and is refusing to answer questions about returning the money. (Btw I know that some of this money is what he is now trying to use to pay another lawyer to divorce/harass me!) - but feel guitly about blabbing on him.
I guess I am wondering how do you get to this stage where - he is now fighting multiple battles on multiple fronts and has fallen so far in terms of morality. Even though it brings it home to me that it's not personal I am still so shocked/hurt that I am connected to this 'strange person'. My daugher visited me recently which is how I know all this and said - things don't look good for him. I feel he is well ....stealing from his own mother. It feels awful. I imagine that in time these things will bother me less - but it's still so hard to see your previous bestfriend/soul mate in this horrible light. Thanks for listening.
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