nancyharry

Hi, my name is Nancy and I am the recovering "addict" of my recovering (1.5 years) alcoholic and addict husband. We have been married since 2008 and have just separated 2 months ago. He has said he wants a divorce. I do not want either of these things. I want to repair our marriage. I did not participate very well in his recovery. I did not attend Alanon meetings until just last month so I felt very alone while he went off to his AA meetings (which I know were necessary). We had a lot of other problems and it became a snowball effect of me being angry he was at meetings and witholding intimacy/affection and then him being angry so I would withold more.
I am starting to heal now. I want to put my marriage back together but he is very resistant.
Any words of wisdom would be appreciated.
Love and light,
Nancy

peanut44

Welcome,

My husband is not the addict but i am. It's been a very hard thing for him to understand. My only regret is that he didn't go to any kind of meetings while i was in patient.

He is a wonderful man but i wish he understood more about me.

My advice is to keep going to alanon meetings and start sharing with him some of what you are learning.

Understanding what is happening with him and about this disease will help you both.

Dee74

Hi and welcome Nancy

I'm really sorry for your situation but I'm glad you're looking for support

You might also like to check out our Family and Friends forums as well
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
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Impurrfect

((Nancy)) - Welcome to SR! I'm both a recovering addict and a recovering codependent. I've found trememdous support in both recoveries, here.

Sorry for the situation that has brought you here, but I am glad you're here.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy