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Aloha :)
I'm actually feeling pretty intimidated at the thought of doing this, but here goes nothing... I suppose it just goes to show that I'm finally doing something right.
A confident and self assured person I am no more, alcohol has basically stunted the progression of my life.
It has taken me a long time to come to accept that I can't drink socially. I understand that if I want any form of a happy life then sobriety is the only way. I know this, I do, but I still resent it so much.
I have got better with my 'why me?' complex, because I know that there are people in the world who are far worse off than me. I just wish I could be a strong enough person to find it easier to accept, I guess.
The drinking culture is rife where I'm from, as I'm sure it is in many places, but I can only speak of my own environment. Drinking is socialising in many respects here, it's certainly a huge aspect of it for people my age anyway. Sadly, drinking became the only bearable part of socialising for me in recent years.
I suppose I just wish I knew a few people of a similar age that I could relate to.
Anyway, I don't really know what I'm hoping for here. It just feels good to say how I feel 'out loud'. Sorry for ranting and thanks.
A confident and self assured person I am no more, alcohol has basically stunted the progression of my life.
It has taken me a long time to come to accept that I can't drink socially. I understand that if I want any form of a happy life then sobriety is the only way. I know this, I do, but I still resent it so much.
I have got better with my 'why me?' complex, because I know that there are people in the world who are far worse off than me. I just wish I could be a strong enough person to find it easier to accept, I guess.
The drinking culture is rife where I'm from, as I'm sure it is in many places, but I can only speak of my own environment. Drinking is socialising in many respects here, it's certainly a huge aspect of it for people my age anyway. Sadly, drinking became the only bearable part of socialising for me in recent years.
I suppose I just wish I knew a few people of a similar age that I could relate to.
Anyway, I don't really know what I'm hoping for here. It just feels good to say how I feel 'out loud'. Sorry for ranting and thanks.
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You're not ranting titus, you're just like us. 
You know I used to think the same thing too, everyone I know drinks, but that's not so.
Since I started dating my boyfriend (he is NOT in recovery) I've met many more people that do not drink in social settings. I bet you'd find that too and you can still enjoy many of the same things without drinking.
Hope you stick around, you're not alone.
You know I used to think the same thing too, everyone I know drinks, but that's not so.
Since I started dating my boyfriend (he is NOT in recovery) I've met many more people that do not drink in social settings. I bet you'd find that too and you can still enjoy many of the same things without drinking.
Hope you stick around, you're not alone.
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Originally Posted by tutivillus89 
I'm actually feeling pretty intimidated at the thought of doing this, but here goes nothing... I suppose it just goes to show that I'm finally doing something right.
A confident and self assured person I am no more, alcohol has basically stunted the progression of my life.
It has taken me a long time to come to accept that I can't drink socially. I understand that if I want any form of a happy life then sobriety is the only way. I know this, I do, but I still resent it so much.
I have got better with my 'why me?' complex, because I know that there are people in the world who are far worse off than me. I just wish I could be a strong enough person to find it easier to accept, I guess.
The drinking culture is rife where I'm from, as I'm sure it is in many places, but I can only speak of my own environment. Drinking is socialising in many respects here, it's certainly a huge aspect of it for people my age anyway. Sadly, drinking became the only bearable part of socialising for me in recent years.
I suppose I just wish I knew a few people of a similar age that I could relate to.
Anyway, I don't really know what I'm hoping for here. It just feels good to say how I feel 'out loud'. Sorry for ranting and thanks.
A confident and self assured person I am no more, alcohol has basically stunted the progression of my life.
It has taken me a long time to come to accept that I can't drink socially. I understand that if I want any form of a happy life then sobriety is the only way. I know this, I do, but I still resent it so much.
I have got better with my 'why me?' complex, because I know that there are people in the world who are far worse off than me. I just wish I could be a strong enough person to find it easier to accept, I guess.
The drinking culture is rife where I'm from, as I'm sure it is in many places, but I can only speak of my own environment. Drinking is socialising in many respects here, it's certainly a huge aspect of it for people my age anyway. Sadly, drinking became the only bearable part of socialising for me in recent years.
I suppose I just wish I knew a few people of a similar age that I could relate to.
Anyway, I don't really know what I'm hoping for here. It just feels good to say how I feel 'out loud'. Sorry for ranting and thanks.
and im in the uk
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Hi Peanuts. Welcome to SR. Hope you are okay. You are not alone on here. I'm quite new to this forum and only 6 weeks sober. I live in Manchester UK.
Welcome tuti. I am struggling with going out socializing sober too, I have give it a miss for now, but I feel lonely, but once i've built up some coping tools I think I will be ready to go out socializing (so long as no one pressurizes me) but i'll explain everything to them so they don't. Most people find new friends in recovery. But I have old friends that I have known for years so I don't want to stop seeing them.
As you say it's everywhere, but is it everywhere because you didn't used to look for the sober ones? a new you means drawing people like you towards you. So you may find that there are people out there that don't drink. Get to AA and listen to the older ones. They are so wise.
Welcome tuti. I am struggling with going out socializing sober too, I have give it a miss for now, but I feel lonely, but once i've built up some coping tools I think I will be ready to go out socializing (so long as no one pressurizes me) but i'll explain everything to them so they don't. Most people find new friends in recovery. But I have old friends that I have known for years so I don't want to stop seeing them.
As you say it's everywhere, but is it everywhere because you didn't used to look for the sober ones? a new you means drawing people like you towards you. So you may find that there are people out there that don't drink. Get to AA and listen to the older ones. They are so wise.
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Thank you
I am 23 - been struggling with this for about 4 years now, although my drinking has never been what you would class as social.
I spent 10 weeks in rehab last year and came out with a renewed sense of hope and self awareness, somewhere along the line I guess I grew complacement and messed things up for myself again.
I'm just so exhausted from it all now; the secrecy, the damaged relationships and the impact it has had on my life overall.
2013 has gotta be my year
I am 23 - been struggling with this for about 4 years now, although my drinking has never been what you would class as social.
I spent 10 weeks in rehab last year and came out with a renewed sense of hope and self awareness, somewhere along the line I guess I grew complacement and messed things up for myself again.
I'm just so exhausted from it all now; the secrecy, the damaged relationships and the impact it has had on my life overall.
2013 has gotta be my year
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